MIL and FIL need a break from each other, a vacation or some sex. I mean, H and I squabble, but holy hell do they need some time doing something fun or apart from each other. Part of the issue is MIL's 1/2 brain - she forgets everything and I think FIL is frustrated repeating himself 10x, esp. when it costs them money. The other issue is that MIL has no outlet - no friends, no social life, no job, no nothing - so she feeds off FIL's day/life like a leach. No wonder he locks himself in the study and reads/studies for hours. You know he's probably in there playing Minesweeper.
At the lunch/program, I counted no less than 12 bumpits.
Also, *that* lady was at the lunch. You know, the one who has to hug everyone there, even if she doesn't know you or even if she hugged you earlier that day. Must.hug.everyone. She attacked the dessert line and some people saw her coming and switched to the coffee line.
Church - my visit has reaffirmed that (1) I don't like going to church b/c I'm just not that friendly, (2) I'm way too liberal for any church like that, to the point I would switch religions, and (3) all churches are the same - same gossip, same people, etc. I just have no faith anymore. I'm too critical and to believe that the Bible, a book, written by man, just like every other, is the word of God? Kinda too far fetched for me to even try to believe. And I just don't care - I'm supposed to pray to a God I don't necessarily believe in for your cousin's daughter's friend's mother's coworker? Really?
Pickle #1 - I know H will want to go to church at some point. Telling him I've lost my faith will create a major, major problem. Like divorce worthy problem. For him, IMO, it's a dealbreaker.
H has never known his biological father. He is aware that one existed and FIL adopted him, but has never known the biodad or had any desire to know him. In fact, there's been a lot of hatred for the biodad. It's not something we discuss, but I have asked once or twice about the biodad and H was pretty short and dismissive about continuing the conversation. MIL told me this weekend that she was going to contact the biodad to ask about family health history for DD. Instead of finding a phone number, she found an obituary from 6 years ago. She's puzzled about if she should tell H, or just write it in a letter and lock it up with her will.
Pickle #2 - Do I broach the biodad subject w/H? I know if MIL tries to tell him he won't have the patience to listen and won't be in the right environment to express whatever feelings he may have about the situation b/c MIL will be staring him in the face. However, I don't necessarily think it's my place to tell him. And since the subject never comes up, is it even worth discussing? IDK. ::sigh::
Also, I have not had a full night of sleep since early last week. I am up only thanks to soda. Thinking about the Pickles makes me want to pull the covers up and hide.