Needs Help!!

afisherma

I am doing everything on my own for my wedding coming up in Oct this year, We are trying very hard to have a $10K wedding for under $7K, My parents aren't funding any of it, I am cutting costs without cutting quality wherever i can. One piece of advice i would give to cut out a HUGE expensem and confusion, is have the ceremony and reception in the same place. No limo expense to transport the wedding party, none of the 2-3 hour wait for your guests, (that's rude), and people will be more apt to come to both the ceremony and reception not just one or the other. What my question is, if i delegate jobs for my wedding party to do, does that make me a Bridezilla?  I haven't gotten any help on anything yet because i am not good with delegating, but i need help, i need advice on how to nicely tell the party to please help me!!.

MNNEBride

Your wedding = Your effort.  No one needs to help you with anything for the wedding.  If they offer, GREAT!  If not, do it yourself.

MinM

I don't understand how having the ceremony and receptions at the same location has anything to do with handing out 'to-do' lists to your friends and family?

Mrs.Thistletwat

You can ask them to help you out but be prepared if they say no. You cannot demand they do things for your day. It is YOUR event, not their's so other than showing up and wearing what you want them to, they're free to do or not do what ever they want

mrsconn23

You can't 'delegate' anything.  If someone offers to help, take them up on it.  If no one offers to help, you're on your own.  You've got 7 or so months.  That's plenty of time to do pull this together with or without extra help.  Just tackle one thing at a time.  If I remember, once I had the church, the place, and the attire, I just did little stuff here and there.  There really wasn't much of anything major to do until about a month or so (maybe even 2 weeks) before the wedding.

Heffalump

If they offer, that's one thing, but you can't delegate in the sense of telling them what you need them to do.  That's why they're your friends and not your employees.

6fsn

limo rides and waits have nothing to do with being a bridezilla and ASKING for help.  Asking friends over to help isn't being a bzilla.  Feed them, get them, drunk and have some fun with it.  I'd venture they won't mind helping.

Demanding or being pissed if they don't show up is being a bzilla.

baconsmom

Also, having the reception in a different location doesn't require limo rides or a wait. We had a half-hour between ceremony and reception: just enough time to drive there. In our own cars. Even me, the bride. 

Ditto everyone else on "delegation". It's a wedding, not a business. They're not your employees.