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Brother/Sister Dance- Opinions please!!!

I know this doesn't really "belong" on this board, but I frequent here more often than the music one, and I wanted you ladies' opinions. 

My 13 year old brother will be giving me away, as my father is not involved and never has been, and my stepfather is probably not even going to come. (oh sadness) So, I want to have a brother sister dance with him, instead of the traditional father daughter dance. I've searched high and low, and I think I've finally settled on "Only you can love me this way" by keith urban.  
Its special to me, because I actually raised him for quite a few years, and I don't love him as a sister. I really put my life on hold to make sure he was taken care of, and a lot of people say that I'd be better off if I hadn't, but I really wouldn't have traded those years for the world, you know?

Anyways, what I was wondering, is knowing all of the above (which everyone at our small family wedding does) does that song sound too much like a love song between a couple, or will everyone "get it"? Just needing outside perspective here, because I think I'm too close to the situation. 

Thanks!

*edit* I should also probably mention, my brother and I did not meet until he was school aged, and Dad dumped him on my doorstep. So parts of the song like "We were meant to be together" and "I could have turned another corner, gone another place", mean, to me, like "I could have chosen to not have you in my life, but I'm glad that we're a family." Make any sense?

Re: Brother/Sister Dance- Opinions please!!!

  • Sounds creepy to me.

    Does your brother even want to do a dance? I hate when people create dances to proclaim some sort of sentiment with the other person, not taking into account whether the other person even wants the spotlight on them.
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  • Lol, yes, he wants to do it. He's as sentimental, if not more so, than I am. 

    What about it sounds creepy? The "always thinking about you" part?
  • Because the song's about two people who were "meant to be together."
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  • Lol, I just edited my original post to explain how I interpret that part of the song...
  • It just seems too much like love it describes is the place your husband should hold.  "when it all becomes too much" you should be running to him, not your brother.  "Always in my heart," sure, but "always on my mind" is a lover you're infatuated with, not family. IMHO, and ultimately it's up to the two of you, but yes, this is too much of a romantic love song.

    Then again, most of the normal father/daughter songs that don't specifically reference fathers and daughters are love songs too, so it boils down to which ones you and your family are comfortable repurposing.
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  • i'm not the least bit familiar with the song so can't comment on the creepiness level, but why don't you let your brother choose the song?

    DK and I both asked our parent (my dad, his mom) what song they wanted to dance to, and they picked a song that was meaningful to them.
  • I think it would be cute to dance to a faster more up tempo song. It can still be sweet, but fun.

    I have no ideas of songs, but I'm sure you can find something.
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  • I have a friend who did a brother/sister dance.  They used "You've got a friend in me"

    Personally I think the song you were thinking is way too much of a love song for a brother/sister. 
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