Cold feet...? Please give input

agape1cor813

I'm 23 days out of my wedding, and I am having some kind of issues.

-Fiance got laid off about 2 months ago, so that's weighing pretty heavy on me, I don't make much money, and I don't live in an area with any economic opportunity for him.

-Sometimes Fiance is kind of clingy ... not like possessive, but he loves being close to me and snuggling with me and kind of goofing off, and a lot of the times he doesn't really listen to me when I tell him to stop. I need a bit more personal space and isolation than the average person.

-I'm 24, he's 26, and I'm beginning to think it's going to be a mistake (at least for me) to not focus on my career and do the things I need to do to be successful.

-I'm just terrified that marriage is going to be a huge mistake and the biggest thing I would fail in my life. I love him, but to a point I feel like to get married in this period of such turmoil means we're doomed from the start.

Am I crazy, or do I have legitimate concerns?

SilverLining1

I think that since you're so close to making one of the biggest commitments of your life, you're having normal concerns. It seems to me that you could benefit quite a bit from premarital/couples counseling. There are probably reasons that your Fiance is clingy, and there are probably effective ways to communicate what you need from him. 

As far as your career situations go, I don't think there's ever a perfect time to make changes like these (marriage, children, etc). Of course you should be fairly stable individually, but being laid off and working toward career goals aren't things that go away with marriage. Life continues happening after you're married. 

If you're really, truly concerned, you may want to consider postponing the wedding and trying counseling. It really will help you both figure out if marriage is the best step and how to make it work. It's always better to postpone or cancel than it is to go through a divorce. Good luck, I hope it works out!