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Some Advice please..

pinkkrystalpinkkrystal member
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I need some advice... So I have picked a venue! Whoo hoo! Set a date Nov 6 and am getting ready to start with everything else!

So the advice that I need.. My mother has tattoos on her wrist that I am not fond of at all. Is it wrong to ask her to have tattoo coverup? It not that i dont want her to be comfortable but these tattoos will be in all of my pictures. I dont know if I am being a brat about it.

Some of my friends suggested shopping with her to find her maybe a long sleeve dress or outfit seeing as it is November.

Ps my mother has twilight tattoos.. not that i dont like twilight.

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Re: Some Advice please..

  • fancynewbeccafancynewbecca
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    edited December 2011
    How big are they? Could she just wear a cuff bracelet? You could just ask your mom if she was planning on covering them, because you never know, she might have already thought of it. I don't really know any etiquette regarding tattoos. I know David Tutera covers bride's tattoos.

    I could tell you my personal opinion, FWIW, but by far this is not advice... for me, this would be something so low on my priority list that I wouldn't care. Tattoos are what they are, and people in my life whom I love a lot have them. My cousin, for example, has a ridiculous amount of tattoos, including a really hideous exorcist tattoo that scares the bejeezus out of me. He is coming to my wedding and he is going to be in my pictures. I would never ask him to cover them because, well, it's who he is and I love him regardless. However, I do think there is a time and place for covering tattoos and generally, I think people with tattoos are aware of it and don't need to be told to cover them. I trust him to show consideration and I know that he will.

    Personally, I wouldn't worry about it.
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  • mgoss228mgoss228 member
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    edited December 2011
    You should bring it up with your mom, and ask her what she thinks/plans to do.  She's probably already given it some thought.
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  • jennlinjennlin member
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    edited December 2011
    sorry, but you're being a brat about it...a tattoo is a form of self expression..and your mother chose those tattoos to represent her...it makes them who she is...and asking her to cover them up, is asking her to cover up who she is...even if it's just a little part of her.
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  • pinkkrystalpinkkrystal member
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    edited December 2011
     i want to just let it go... she has the signature of "dr.cullen" up her arm along with each of the book titles on her wrists and the tattoos are not able to be covered with a cuff. It doesnt bother me that she has tattoos i understand it is an expression of herself.. I wish i could better explain it to where you all might understand how she is i dont want her to be uncomfortable but she is someone who likes attention and usually tries to pull it to her and i feel like I am be being a brat about it I just want to be tactful to her so she understands that i  dont want that to be the first thing noticed in pictures..

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  • ArchelArchel member
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    edited December 2011
    It's november. She can wear a shawl for family photos if it means that much to you. :)

    PS. just wanted to say - excellent choice for a wedding date!!
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  • mgoss228mgoss228 member
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    edited December 2011
    You are definitely overthinking this.  Worst case scenerio:  your mom doesn't cover her tattoos and someone notices.... not too big of a deal, imo, you can point it out in photos later to your future kids and make fun of grandma together Wink.  The tattoos don't sound obscene or offensive (but definitely a little embarrassing), so try not to worry about it.  Hopefully your mom will wear a jacket or something with long-sleeves, but if she doesn't it won't be the worst thing ever.
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  • kristend72kristend72
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    edited December 2011
    I'm for covering tattoos with clothes but against covering them with makeup. Part of the point of pictures is to remember people as they are. I think it would seem strange to look at pictures from two days before - with tattoos, at the wedding - no tattoos, after the wedding - with tattoos. But I'm the kind of person that notices continuity mistakes in movies.

    It is November so it will look totally normal to just wear long sleeves for at least a few pictures.


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  • pinkkrystalpinkkrystal member
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you all for the advice! I think i am going to try to go more for a shawl or sweater becuase it is november.. I would feel bad asking her to cover them but I am a little embarassed but you made a good point mqoss228 that we can just make fun of her in later years :P
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