I don't usually ask this, but should I be hurt?

Wonderw1fe

Yesterday was my grandfather's 90th birthday. I guess Grandma n'em threw a little shin dig for him. I didn't know anything about it, but one of my cousins posted something about it on his FB status. DH saw this and emailed me on the side, "Did you know about this party?" I said no. He was all, "Your cousin posted it on FB... they didn't tell you about it??" I said no, they didn't. So?

So I guess I'm supposed to be all butt hurt over not being invited to my Grandfather's 90's birthday "party" thrown in the middle of the day on Wednesday. I am not, however. There's no way in hell we would have been able to make it. My family knows this. But DH's ire is up. I think he's looking for sht to be annoyed about. I told him we could go see Granddaddy on Sunday, if he's up to having visitors.

WDYT?

AuntFlo

I think your DH is bored today and is stirring up trouble.   I can see why you might be slightly annoyed by not being invited, but it doesn't sound like it's worth starting a family war over for you.

HookaPants

Maybe it was last minute? I wouldn't be hurt.

loveshine1

Exactly what AF said.

PharmacyBride

Do you know if your parents' got the message and didn't forward it to you?

Despite moving out at 18 and paying for my own bills- only one of my aunts ever gives me an invite directly.  (My brother didn't even send me an invite to his wedding when I was living 6 hours away in Ohio).  My mom always copies the invites and mails them to me.

Maybe your mom already RSVPed no for you and forgot to tell you.  Just a thought

zsazsa-stl

My family did this, too.  My cousin is a nurse and works crazy hours, so she put together a birthday party for my grandpa at something like 10 am on a Tuesday morning.  Most of the family lives out of town, so it was her and my aunt and the other people at his residential center.  I didn't get an invitation, but I did get an e-mail with some pictures and a "too bad you didn't come."

hmonkey

yes, ww, maybe your mom forgot to tell you.

anyhoo, i will say what i always say -- feel however you want to feel.  the thing that matter is -- what are you going to do about it?  clearly, wonderdh thinks you should go see granddada on sunday and maybe burn "JERKS!" into the lawn with gasoline.  maybe.

nicoleg1982

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[QUOTE]Do you know if your parents' got the message and didn't forward it to you? Despite moving out at 18 and paying for my own bills- only one of my aunts ever gives me an invite directly.  (My brother didn't even send me an invite to his wedding when I was living 6 hours away in Ohio).  My mom always copies the invites and mails them to me. Maybe your mom already RSVPed no for you and forgot to tell you.  Just a thought
Posted by PharmacyBride[/QUOTE]

<div>This made me giggle.</div>

NOLABridesmaid

I think if you invite some family, you should invite all family. They can decide if they can make it or not, but that's just me.

Wonderw1fe

*snort*

I'll have to ask my mom if she RSVPed for me.

It's very likely that my Grandma corralled everyone at the last minute; Granddaddy is in the last stages of Alzheimer's, so no one really "plans" much of anything for him. It depends on how he's doing that day. I will continue to not be hurt.

**O-Face**

If you have to LOOK for a reason to be hurt, then you know the answer.

NOLABridesmaid

I'm going home to see my gm because she isn't doing well. She has Alzheimer's too, and doesn't want to eat anymore. They just put in a feeding tube, but it's so sad to see her like this.

6fsn

Mid-week = lunch no hurt feelings.  Saturday night soiree for 100 = hurt feelings.

Nola, I'm sorry to hear about your gma.

jojobrn

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[QUOTE]*snort* I'll have to ask my mom if she RSVPed for me. It's very likely that my Grandma corralled everyone at the last minute; Granddaddy is in the last stages of Alzheimer's, so no one really "plans" much of anything for him. It depends on how he's doing that day. I will continue to not be hurt.
Posted by Wonderw1fe[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Maybe it was a Facebook invite.  They are all the rage now.

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