anyone doing this alone?

tobarlerner

So here's my deal.
I was born and raised in NYC. Friends and sister live there. Mother/aunts/everyone else live in Ecuador.
We got engaged in May, moved to california in july, getting married in May.

So i've been planning this whole thing alone. So far it's been ok, skype helps me show my mom the invites, the veil..little things. 
But as i get closer to the date it's sinking in that i'm not going to have anyone there with me for my fiittings. Noone is in town to help me pick out jewery. 

My fiance has been really involved in the planning so the big things have been a team effort. We went to cake tastings etc. He's been reallyexcited too so.. that makes me feel better.

It's just the little things, the parts i can't plan or talk to him about that make me feel all alone in this sometimes. 

At least i'll have a bachelorette party (cause i'm flying back to ny), that was a maybe until a couple weeks' ago.

Anyone else out there like me? How are you dealing? 

ReturnOfKuus

I enjoyed that, too.

6fsn

I keep reading the name as Toblerone and all I can think about is chocolate. 

I also hate the broken knot.

krizzo17

Me too. I'm an engineer so I don't have much contact with other women, and even before that I never really got along with too many girls my own age. So, no bridal party, no sisters/cousins to help, and I just moved 2 hours away from my parents. I'm enjoying the lack of ridiculous drama that seems to come with a wedding party and/or crazy girlfriends, but sometimes I need help making decisions on things! Honestly, I've taken to prefacing facts for my fiance with "I know you won't find this exciting, but I need you to pretend to be excited that..."

Also, enjoy this experience with your fiance! It's hard to do the girly things alone, but it's nice to get to do the wedding planning as just the two of you! And, if you really can't stand it, just go over to the maids/moms board, or the wedding party board, read about some crazy people, and you'll suddenly remember why doing this as an adult, independent woman is so wonderful

zsazsa-stl

I bought my dress when I was alone...fittings alone...but I'm a big girl and know what I like.  Some people turn every little detail into a gala event with all of their friends and neighbors, but that is a fairly recent phenomena and is still far from the norm and even further from being practical. 

hmonkey

i'm enjoying not having anyone tell me what to do or to buy.

MinM

I planned mine without my mom or sisters.....just some input from friends and the planner. It'll be OK. I promise.

mrsconn23

The broken knut makes for funny threads.  It's kind of like a puzzle.

tobarlerner

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_anyone-doing-this-alone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:954386df-2c18-46d0-b741-3fdbef57681cPost:5189113c-9531-41d4-a67c-78b4cd808997">Re: anyone doing this alone?</a>:
[QUOTE]Me too. I'm an engineer so I don't have much contact with other women, and even before that I never really got along with too many girls my own age. So, no bridal party, no sisters/cousins to help, and I just moved 2 hours away from my parents.<strong> I'm enjoying the lack of ridiculous drama that seems to come with a wedding party and/or crazy girlfriends</strong>, but sometimes I need help making decisions on things! Honestly, I've taken to prefacing facts for my fiance with "I know you won't find this exciting, but I need you to pretend to be excited that..." Also, enjoy this experience with your fiance! It's hard to do the girly things alone, but it's nice to get to do the wedding planning as just the two of you! And, if you really can't stand it, just go over to the maids/moms board, or the wedding party board, read about some crazy people, and you'll suddenly remember why doing this as an adult, independent woman is so wonderful :)
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</div><div>That's a good point. I guess the bright side is that it's all our decisions, not the moms/sisters. 
Also, now i have to check out that board ;)

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tobarlerner

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_anyone-doing-this-alone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:954386df-2c18-46d0-b741-3fdbef57681cPost:008def05-7129-4625-9c6d-e1afe7ab104b">Re: anyone doing this alone?</a>:
[QUOTE]I planned mine without my mom or sisters.....just some input from friends and the planner. It'll be OK. I promise.
Posted by MinM[/QUOTE]

Thanks! It's silly but just knowing i'm not the only bride handling it all makes me feel better :)