What irks me more than anything about the gay marriage thing is people who are trying to be progressive and talk about changing the definition so that "marriage" is the religious joining, while contrafibularity or whatever is the secular joining. It's dumb. The religious joining already HAS a separate term - it's called "matrimony". "Marriage" has ALWAYS been the social construct that doesn't necessarily imply anything religious, at least as long as the language has been roughly the way it is now. It's like the socially charged version of people forgetting that the English language already includes the word "give" and making "gift" into a verb.