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Dear Prudence,
After seeing several friends go through bitter and prolonged divorces, my husband has decided that he wants us to have a postnuptial agreement. He explains that our marriage is a "limited liability partnership" with no "out clause" and that he wants to put a "stop loss" in place, as if our marriage is one of his stock market trades. He says he doesn't want to go on in this "contract"—meaning our marriage—unless I sign a postnup. We have been married four years and have a toddler son. We live in a state that says assets should be divided equitably in a divorce, but the postnup he offers would give me only 20 percent of his financial assets and he’d keep the house because he owned it before we were married. We both work, though I make two-thirds of his income. I consulted an attorney who says my husband’s proposal is “total B.S.” and I shouldn’t sign. My husband says if I don’t he will serve me with divorce papers. He adds this has nothing to do with his feelings for me or our son, and would prefer to continue living together even if we do divorce. I love the life we had together and don’t want to lose it. We even had been talking about having a second child. But he is obviously more worried about protecting his growing wealth than he is about our family. I just don't know what to do.

—To Sign or Not To Sign?

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    VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    edited October 2012
    My mouth is just hanging open on the floor.

    I need a SHUT THE FRONT DAMN DOOR up in here.
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    Yeah- dude wants a divorce and wants out clean. He knows that if he goes to court, he'll get his a$$ handed to him.

    MrsConn, I'd just let him divorce you. Then take everything he's got.
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    Yes, Pmeg, that is right.  Poor conn, your husband clearly doesn't have the balls to just man up and say "I want out now!".  *smh*
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_its-thursday-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:994f453a-4ed1-40fb-88db-1d789012e843Post:8d59d670-895f-45fa-a8dc-71a4885903a6">Re: It's Thursday!</a>:
    [QUOTE]MrsConn, I'd just let him divorce you. Then take everything he's got.
    Posted by PMeg819[/QUOTE]

    THIS!
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    MrsConn, I'm sorry your husband loves his house and money more than you and your son.

    The best adviSe I can give is to have that second child.  Everything will be alright if you just have another kid.

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    WzzWzz member
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    i don't see the big deal here. if she doesn't sign, she'll get divorce papers and gets half, right? his ultimatum sounds like he's looking forward to a divorce anyway.

    conn, you do you! from the crib to the ride and the clothes!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_its-thursday-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:994f453a-4ed1-40fb-88db-1d789012e843Post:8d59d670-895f-45fa-a8dc-71a4885903a6">Re: It's Thursday!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yeah- dude wants a divorce and wants out clean. He knows that if he goes to court, he'll get his a$$ handed to him. MrsConn, I'd just let him divorce you. Then take everything he's got.
    Posted by PMeg819[/QUOTE]

    <div>um, this. </div><div>
    </div><div>Mr. Conn probably has a side piece too. </div>
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