Don't worry, my fiancé is fine.
I just found out that a man I dated a few years ago died of cancer just a few months ago. We weren't close, but things were serious enough for us to meet eachother's families, and he didn't have cancer then. How does a 25 year old man who doesn't drink or smoke die of cancer?
One of the main reasons that we broke up was because he wanted things to move really quickly. If he had his way, we would have been married with three kids by now. Me? I have a plan. It's a ten year plan that I cling to dearly. And I'm patient because my plan doesn't allow impatience although patience isn't my strong suit. I think maybe he had it right. To take life as it comes and to enjoy every minute of it. Here I am, waiting patiently for the engagement, waiting patiently for the marriage because I want to save for it and I want my family there and my FI's family there and I want the time to mull over details, because I love details.. But I guess news of his death really hit me.. If I had 30 days to live, what will I have accomplished? Do I really want to make myself be patient and wait a few years for marriage because that is how I had it planned in my 10 year plan? And kids? Do I want to wait another 8 years to have kids when I know that something could happen any day?
I guess I'm feeling a little down and a little worried.. And a little shaken. Here I was thinking he was doing it all wrong and setting himself up for heartbreak. He was married with kids and starting a business and a loving family standing with him when he died... It sounds like he did it right with the little life he had.
Dear Optimist, Pessimist and Realist,
While you guys were busy arguing about the glass of water, I drank it.
Sincerely,
The Opportunist