I was planning on having a small dinner at my house for my rehearsal dinner, I was going to have it catered. I was planning on it just being the bridal party, groomsmen and our parents. I want something small and simple because I know how stressed out I am going to be at that point in time. My fiancés family offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner. I do not want to do it her way, so I was planning on paying for my way. But she is insisting I am doing it wrong and she intends to folow her plans through.
My mother in law told me I have to (her words not mine), invite all of the out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner. This brought the total up from the 15 people (myself and fiancée included) to around 50 people. I know I am not going to be in any mood to entertain and speak to that many people. However, that is not my only problem, I have told her at least three times what I wanted to do for the rehearsal dinner, every time her response is nasty looks and rude comments. She tells me it is not appropriate, rude and that the guests expect us to do this.
We received a phone call from her the other day to find out what time the wedding rehearsal would be done, we told her we don't know, the contract was at home and we were out. She told us she needed to know right away, she was meeting with the man the next day to reserve the room for the rehearsal dinner. There are 3 things that bother me in this situation:
A. She is totally ignoring us and what we would like to do
B. She was setting up the rehearsal dinner without asking us
C. She never asked me how many family members I had coming in from out of town
What should I do in this situation, the woman is driving me nuts!