SEXtember

*Barbie*

the local morning show that DK listens to is running what they call SEXtember - they have 4 couples who made a pledge to have sex every day for the month of september and then report back and let the listeners know if/how it has changed their lives.

Couple #1 - 20s, dating. broke up by 9/7. fail.
Couple #2 - early 30s, married, 3 kids. were having sex about 1x/week prior to SEXtember. have managed to go 7/7 so far. say that they think it has really helped their relationship/intimacy - they just weren't making sex a priority before.
Couple #3 - 40s, married, no kids. were getting it on at least 2-3x/week prior - are supposedly 11/7 - but the DJ told them they don't get extra credit.
Couple #4 - 50s, married. didn't answer the phone for update - assumed they were "busy"

is this something that you have/would try? if you tried, what was the impact?

GBCK

I don't like sex being a 'chore', but at the same time, making it a priority would be nice.

Will the radio station send over a baby-sitter for an hour a day?

PMeg819

Well, it would be impossible for us. With my travel schedule, I'm home a few days a week. Also, if I am home some days I'm up at 4 am to go to the airport anyways so by the time I get home I'm in no mood. I'd like to have more sex but, I have no energy half the time.

DG1

I actually suggested this to H. He declined.

mrsconn23

This was on Oprah once. But I think the couple did it for a year.

I think it would turn sex into a chore.

DH and I have sex 3-4 times a week and I think that's pretty good with 2 kids, full time jobs, and other activities (football, family stuff).

DG1

Jeebus, Mrs. Conn.  I don't know how you find time for your other activites, never mind that PLUS sex 3-4x/wk.

H and I probably get to talk to each other for about 20 minutes/day, total. That has to cover everything from "did you get your mom's birthday present yet" to BCBC. 

zsazsa-stl

I don't know that we like each other that much.

Cant_wait!

I only see my husband a max of 10 days a month, so this would not work.

loveshine1

Ha. I won't even tell you how long it's been since we've had sex, but he was also traveling, I've had a wild period situation, and we've both been sick.

Hopefully this weekend we'll step it up. However, every day for a month seems like a lot. Twice a week seems normal.

tawillers

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[QUOTE]DH and I have sex 3-4 times a week and I think that's pretty good with 2 kids, full time jobs, and other activities (football, family stuff).
Posted by mrs.conn23[/QUOTE]

Same here, but make it 3 kids and only one of us has a full time job.  If DD2 is napping and we're in the mood, we send DD1 to son's room and lock ourselves in our bedroom for a little while.

nicoleg1982

I would definitely do this.

TheDuckis

I swear there was some church a few years back that encouraged their congregants to do this. I'm sortof with GBCK in thinking it would turn sex into a chore--or at least just another "to do" item to check off the list. We typically manage once or twice a week, more because of conflicting sleep schedules than anything else. I wouldn't mind coming up with some kind of agreement where we each try to consciously inititate more or not turn down as often.

DG1

It's already a "to do" item for me. At least it is about 90% of the time. I just don't care that much, and I"m tired, yo.

mrsconn23

Me working from home has improved our sex life.  I get more done during the day that we don't have to mess with after work.  He's also off on Wednesday, so we often have lunch break sex.

hmonkey

i would rather spend that time watching tv.

mrsconn23

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[QUOTE]we did a week's worth of this sometime last year and we were burnt out by the end of the week. never again.
Posted by Wifezzilla[/QUOTE]

Heh.  That's how DefConn was concieved.  A week of non-stop sex while I was 'pretty sure' I was ovulating.  Obivously my guess was correct.  ;)

DG1

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[QUOTE]i would rather spend that time watching tv.
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

Ha. Indeed.

*Barbie*

i told him i think we should try it. we'll see how long we can last.

loveshine1

And what about when you get your period? Then is it BJs?

nicoleg1982

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[QUOTE]And what about when you get your period? Then is it BJs?
Posted by loveshine1[/QUOTE]

<div>You hump right through the thick of it and enjoy the internal massage.  </div>

*Barbie*

nothing wrong with period sex. i haven't really had one in a few years cause of the Mirena/pregnancy/new mirena/BF, but i'd say put down a towel and go at it.

Supasm

We typically have sex 5-6 times a week... doesn't really seem like a chore... Just really enjoyable...lol.