Role Reversal

TheDuckis

I might go insane. H is off work this week. It's the first time since our honeymoon that he's been completely unplugged from work (he spent most of our SD trip and half of Thanksgiving week on the phone). He is using his time off to sleep. Please to be noting we close on our house Friday, I'm 35 weeks pregnant, and we're hosting NYE for about 12 people. Also, I'm not off work this week. Yes, it's only PT, but that's still 4 hours a day that I'm not home to clean/pack/organize, and our house is for serious a shithole right now. Yesterday I asked him to clean the kitchen and start making sure all his CDs and DVDs are ripped so we can sell them. He did one load of dishes, and then spent the day planning the menu for NYE. He wants to spend all day Friday and Saturday cooking, because it's not like we might be busy those days. 51 weeks a year he works his ass off, and if anyone deserves a vacation it's him. But goddamn it WHY does that vacation need to fall right when we have a million and a half things going on?

dharmabunny

That's a LOT of crap to deal with even without being pg. 

NYE party?  Papa John's, Doritos, keg, plastic cups.  BE DONE girl! 

StephBeanWed61502

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[QUOTE]That's a LOT of crap to deal with even without being pg.  NYE party?  Papa John's, Doritos, keg, plastic cups.  BE DONE girl! 
Posted by dharmabunny[/QUOTE]

I would go to this party.  I am pretty sure pizza and beer is always welcome.

6fsn

Give him a list and if he finishes it he gets to cook.

DH and I have very different work styles.  I try really, really, REALLY hard not to get mad when he does things on his time and not mine.

zsazsa-stl

I have no words of advice.

::looks out window at ugly, half-fallen fence::

nicoleg1982

LOL @ zsa.  

Maybe you should try reversing roles, not rolls.    See if that helps.

TheDuckis

Pizza is a no-go. The ridiculously elaborate spread is a NYE tradition for him, and a matter of pride. I asked him if he could just focus in one meat, and his response was "yeah. I'm thinking fresh sausage, sliders, chicken skewers, wings, and ribs." And I was all THAT IS NOT ONE, IT'S FIVE. But he thinks it's okay because he can prep it all Friday and will just have to do the grilling on Saturday. He wanted to cure his own corned beef, but that takes 10 days. He's going to get some started anyway, because he's been wanting to try it and "has time" now.

TheDuckis

Ugh. I'm just gonna blame the iPhone on that one, Nico.

DG1

I almost hope the baby comes early just to spite him.

*Barbie*

oh hell no.

he needs a honey-do list and some accountability. NYE party planning comes at the end.

assuming the closing goes smoothly (and i'm hoping it does) that's still going to cut a good 2 hours out of your Friday. plus another hour for the walkthrough.

dharmabunny

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[QUOTE]I almost hope the baby comes early just to spite him.
Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]

This.  He needs to stuff his pride about the party and actually put the limited time and energies contributing to MUST GET DONE tasks and not make his heavily pregnant wife overexert and overstress herself due to his pride.

Guaranteed, he's going to get one rude a$$ awakening when LO comes along.  She'll show you what she thinks about the overstuffed task list of things that don't directly impact her.

TheDuckis

Oh no. I do not want an early baby. Do. Not. Want. At. All. I'm hoping to go about a week late, seriously. I have too much sht to get done between now and then. Don't wish that on him or me.

I don't mind the NYE thing as long as he tones it down by about half. Like I said, the guy deserves a vacation, and cooking/grilling is pure joy for him. The more irritating thing is the "we have all week" attitude, which admittedly I have myself most of the time. But this isn't most of the time.

The one saving grace is that we actually do have nothing to do house-wise on Friday. I didn't know this until yesterday, but in CA all the paperwork gets done ahead of time, and "closing" is just the day the deed is taken to the clerk's office and stamped. We signed yesterday, and the money is getting transferred today. Friday we just wait for a call from our realtor that it's official.

DG1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Role Reversal : This.  He needs to stuff his pride about the party and actually put the limited time and energies contributing to MUST GET DONE tasks and not make his heavily pregnant wife overexert and overstress herself due to his pride. Guaranteed, he's going to get one rude a$$ awakening when LO comes along.  She'll show you what she thinks about the overstuffed task list of things that don't directly impact her.
Posted by dharmabunny[/QUOTE]


Word. Unless you're one of those freaky people who is baking pies 3 weeks later.

And, to clarify, I don't really wish it if you don't want it. And I certainly don't wish for her to come *too* early.

hmonkey

i don't think you should "you'll understand when we have kids" at him but you should use your words and let him know how specifically anxious you feel.