Would you NOT invite your Mother?

adcam0811

Without going into the complex family history, let me just say that Mom left when I was 12.  Though she remained in my life (more at times, less at times), it was my stepmom who essentially raised me.

At my first sisters wedding, there was a lot of tension placed on my sister (from mom) that built into a dramatic episode at her reception.  Long story short, mid-way through her wedding reception, my sister spent 30 minutes in a bathroom crying.

My second sister chose to elope to avoid family drama.  She did have a celebration party after the fact.  Again, tension ensued and a couple hours into the party, my mom was found arguing with a family friend and creating a scene, only to storm out in dramatic fashion. 

So, here I am wondering if I should take the very extreme route of not even inviting her to my wedding.  Our relationship is challenged at best.  I want to spend the day with family that I know will put their needs second  to my big day and not create a scene.

What would you do?

ReturnOfKuus

It doesn't sound like you actually want your mom there, so that being the case, I'd leave her off of the guest list.

RaptorSLH

The aftermath of not inviting her could potentially leave you estranged - or, at the very least, you'll be hearing about it years later.  If your relationship with your mother is strained enough that you can accept that cost, well, I've never believed an accident of genetics matters as much as the way people treat you.

SouthernHoneybee

Not inviting my Mom. We've never had a good relationship at all. Both families know the story. She's been mentally & verbally abusive for as long as I can remember and we haven't spoken in 2 years. And my parents are divorced. So it's a little easier to invite my dad and his fiance and not my mom. I don't want her to have any part in my wedding.