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zitiqueen

I'll just say pay for your own wedding and leave it at that.

*Barbie*

pay for the wedding that YOU can afford to pay for, RIGHT NOW. 

if someone offered money but didn't give you that cash, don't count on ever getting it.
don't count on potential income from a job/jobs over the next several months - you may lose them.
don't ask anyone for money, it's tacky.

don't rack up credit card bills to throw a party.

either postpone the wedding until you can afford it or scale back and have the wedding on the planned schedule. we can't tell you which of these to do - what's more important: the date or the party?

DG1

I'm confused, too.

What was the original budget? Where was that money coming from?

You may end up out a big chunk of money if you back out of your venue contract now anyway. Only you know how to do that math.

HermosaHearts

If you back out of the contract, you will get mo money back and depending on how the contract is worded you may owe them as much as 75% of the total contracted amount. Talk with the person handling your event and then make an informed decision.

RaptorSLH

It'd really help if you clearly posted the details of the problem.  The only thing that's clear to me is that you feel neglected by your family.  I get it, but it's not clear what that has to do with churches and $9,000.

I will say if your family was giving you money, that comes with strings.  More money = more strings.  So if you don't like those stings, time to downsize to the budget you can afford.  Hermosa has a good point about checking the cancellation policy in your contracts before you decide.