NO ONE IS HELPING ME!!!

luvta

I am planning my wedding by myself. I am plannning my own bridal shower and planning my reception.

I have 2 maid of honors, 2 mothers who are not willing to help at all. 

One of my maid of honors is my sister who is to busy wrapped up in school to help far as attending dress fittings, acompanying shoping for supplies, and planning a bridal shower.

Other Maid of honor is broke, no car and preoccupied with personal desires.

My own mother has complained constantly about being to tired to assist in any help.

My soon to be mother in law is to busy talking about her other son and his new fiance and how she is helpng them.

I am passed upset. Just trying to get through this time. I never imagined it being like this.  I assumed my family would most of all willing to help and be at least supportive.. 

I havent asked for any money basically just their support and time and that is not even being given. 

Any suggestions on how I can get through without completely breaking down. 

seesawgirl

Firstly, I'm sorry that you're frustrated, but if you're looking for sympathy, you've come to the wrong place. My mother isn't even coming to my wedding. When I texted her a picture of me in my wedding gown, she replied back "cute". That was 2 weeks ago, and I haven't heard from her since. 

Secondly, you are not supposed to plan your own bridal shower. If someone wants to throw you one, thats fine and dandy, but you don't throw yourself a party and ask for gifts. 

Third, if you are overwhelmed with the planning, shopping, and preparation for your wedding, it is up to you to put on your big girl panties and admit that you're over your head and ask for help, and if that is refused, scale back on your expectations for your wedding. Its not anyone else's responsibilty to put their lives on hold for your wedding. Would it be great if they wanted to? Of course! Is it reasonable to expect it? Maybe, depending on the person. Do you have the right to be pissed off about it? Absolutely not. 

My advice for getting through this time, would be to realize that while your wedding is awesome and exciting for you, everyone else's lives are not going to start revolving around going with you to try on dresses, and running around hobby lobby. Invite, but if they refuse...just go alone. Hell, be grateful for it. At least you don't have to deal with unsolicited advice on what you have planned. 

6fsn

Everything that seesaw said.  (there has to be a tongue twister in there somewhere).

Don't plan your own shower. 

RaptorSLH

1.  Don't host your own shower.  It is a bit rude to host a "give me presents" party, and that's what a shower is.  If no one offers to throw one for you, it's OK not to have one.  This immediatly simplifies your list, too, in a big way.

2. Hire a day-of coordinator, and draft your FI to help.  Your FI and any paid professionals are the only ones obligated to help, so make use of them instead of resenting your friends and mothers.

3.  See if there's any details you can simplify.  Your guests won't care if the favor boxes were custom crafted with ribbons and personalized stickers, or were simple fold-out jobs from Michaels.  Fancy seating cards are nice, but hardly a necessity.  Look at your plans, and see what can be scrapped or simplified.  Actually, scratch that.  Treat yourself to a day off - bubble bath, massage, gym, whatever destresses you and lets you focus on something else - then look at your plans and see what you can simplify.

luvta

Thank you for being real...I have most def. taken that approach and just Being more realistic about everything and Getting it done!!

luvta

THank you... I have opted to just let a lot of things go and just waiting patiently for the day to arrive. 

Me and my fiance have been paying for everything.

I guess I always expected for my fam to help or be a little more excited than they were.

Im back to reality and being rational