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bride asks friend to be a bridesmaid.  friend accepts.  later, bride tells friend that because friend does not belong to bride's religion, friend will not be allowed to walk up the aisle or stand at the altar.  instead, friend will sit in the front pew.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't vote SS, but I need details. Is she the only maid? Do the other maids get to walk? Won't they also sit in the front pew? WTF kind of religion is this? 

    If I were the bride, I wouldn't make her buy a dress or anything (because I wouldn't make anyone), but I'd list her in the program as a maid. And I'd apologize up and down for my weird church. 
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    Did the bride know that if the BM was not of the same faith that this would be the case or did she find out after asking the BM?
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    she is not the only bm, but the other bms are of the religion, as are most of the gms.  so she will be sitting in the pew of honor with at least another person.

    the religion doesn't matter, but let's pretend it's santeria, okay?
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    bride did know about the limitations of her faith, but wanted friend in the party anyway.

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  • NOLABridesmaidNOLABridesmaid member
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    edited December 2011
    Why wouldn't the bride tell friend this when she asked her?
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm with NOLA.  This is entrapment.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    remember, everyone on tk says that being in the bridal party is such an honor, so bride thought friend would be so flattered to be asked.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    I third NOLA.  I think that's some BS.  The bride should have been upfront. 

    I would not buy a BM dress if I were the friend.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    Well, it would have been an honor *if* bride had been honest. Now it just feels like a racket, and I'd bow out. 
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    I really want to know the religion,  just because I have one in mind and I want to know if I'm right.
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    edited December 2011
    I want to SS this.
    Stay part of the BP, don't spend $$$ on a dress.  She can be ahonor attendant w/o a dress.
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    Does it rhyme with shoreman, Conn? 

    Though...I doubt they would even LET you a non-shoreman in there.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wdyt-77?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:be2ab0ab-1044-4ab7-ac09-8f695b00452cPost:f004b6b4-ba51-45d5-af31-2c5777d1ebd0">Re: wdyt?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Does it rhyme with shoreman, Conn?  Though...I doubt they would even LET you a non-shoreman in there.
    Posted by **O-Face**[/QUOTE]
    I thought they didn't let anyone in who isn't super-perfect-shiny for Jesus. That's why they don't invite many people, if any, to the ceremony, but they'll have a huge reception. Because even if their guests are practitioners, the likelihood that they'll be good enough for the temple is almost nil. 
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    See, I thought of that too, BM.  *tapping chin*
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