Wedding Woes

Dad won't attend reception

I'm so upset, my dad wants to walk me down the aisle and leave. My Mom & Dad got divorced about 7 years ago and he thinks my mother will start an argument with him at the wedding. I've talked to my mom about this and she has conviced me that it is absolutely my day and there is no way she will do this. I've explained to him that there will be 100+ people at the wedding and they don't have to come anywhere near each other or talk to each other. I've tried talking to his sister to hear her opinion and she agrees with me that he should stay and that he will regret leaving in the future. She has tried talking to him too. My dad and I have been very close but in the last 6 months we have been arguing over other stuff which doesn't help. I cannot tell you how sad I am about all of this. Any ideas on how I can convince him to stay? When I think about how he won't be there to do the father-daughter dance, give a toast, or to see what other little suprises I have in store, it brings me to tears.

Re: Dad won't attend reception

  • DG1DG1 member
    Ninth Anniversary 5000 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011

    So tell him that. "Dad, the idea of not having you there for the whole thing makes me very sad. I've been looking forward to our father-daughter dance for years. I hope you'll decide to be the bigger person and stay."

    Then hope he doesn't be an ass. That's all you can do.

    It seems to me the least he could do is wait and see if your mom picks a fight with him, instead of assuming she will and acting pre-emptively in a way that hurts you.  Worst case, she picks a fight and he does leave, right? What's the harm in staying until she does (and then, if she doesn't, yay, he gets to stay for the whole thing!)

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