My mother and i didnt really get to know eachother until i moved in with her at 14 (im 22 now) thats becasue she lived with her mom and was having a hard time just taking care of my brother, well i lived with her for less than three years and moved out a few days before my 17 birthday. (we fought way too much)
We havent been close or even worked on it, lately though since i had my son (10mo.) she has been around more to get to know the baby, so we have talked more and bonded a little more. So about ten years ago she married a man who is well off financially, i dont look at him as my father, but we are friendly twoards one another. I am a daddys girl and always will be, but my father has not made good choices in his life, but i still love him very much he is my dad.
So my mother has offered to pay for the wedding, she has a strict budget so her money will cover the venue and my gown. very nice of her and her husband. My fiance and i are saving to cover the rest (all the other things involved) so we are putting in the same amount if not more. Well lately i have been looking at venues to rent and have found one, we went to see it and she was going to make deposit today. so i contacted venue and got all the informaiton for mailing. like she asked this morning....
A few months ago my mother and i had a fight about her feeling direspected becasue my father is walking me down the aisle (wether she likes it or not) she feels since he cannot put in money wise, he hasnt "earned the honor" my father has no job and lives with my granmother(who raised me) but i still love him very much. my daddy is walking me down the aisle regardless. So ne way we argued of course and than just brushed it off, that was a few weeks ago. So today she called and asked me to get the info from the venue, so i did and informed the owner we were mailing deposit today. Than my mother calls me and proceeds to scream at me about what a spoiled brat i am, and i havent even thanked her, and that i have changed (this is about the tenth time she has told me this same thing in about two years)
She proceeds to tell me that i am taking advantage of her and that she feels very disrespected by me and she is not paying anything until she feels respected. So my stand point is we have plenty of time to save ourselfs and budget these things in also, what bothers me is my mother is creating all these problems and blames me. she wants to know what happened to me and the only thing i can think of is she did, and i am just to the point where i dont even care how she feels anymore... i really dont. so i am really stressed out by this, even my FI and best friend are tired of her doing this constantly... i mean even before the wedding she did this. Well needless to say i wont be counting on "mommies money" excuse me her husbands money.
It was a nice "gift" her budget was 3,000...i can make that up right??? I am upset i feel like my mother is gonna ruin my wedding!! Any thoughts ladies?
Future Mrs.Hellem