Wedding Woes

Wedding blues? Early cold feet?? HELP!!!

Okay so without writing a hundred pages describing the trials of planning our wedding...here is my dilemma:

Planning this wedding has been ok to start and has recently become miserable. It has become a bit better in the last 2 weeks or so, but basically my FMIL has had an opinion on EVERYTHING. Literally everything...and her opinions are always negative and go something like, "Why don't you have hot dogs and hamburgers in a park or our backyard instead of a restaurant?" and "I don't know if all of your (my fiance's) family will be coming because of how far and where your wedding is (1.5 hrs away from all of his family if not less)." All of her issues have made my mom hate her and resent my fiance's entire family. She likes to say she has lost her respect for my fiance too. So there's this family feud I guess you could say. My fiance and I TRULY love each other and know we're right for each other, BUT...I have lost allllll of my excitement for our wedding. Whenever someone asks me if I'm excited, I realize I'm not. At all. I can't even get myself to feel excited. It freaks me out!!! What do I do?!  Has anyone else felt like this 3 months before the big day?!?!?!??

Re: Wedding blues? Early cold feet?? HELP!!!

  • My mother is the same way! I learned to just keep her in the dark about things wedding related. The less she knows, the better! My FI and I are paying for our wedding entirely on our own so her or anyone else's input doesn't really matter.

    As long you and FI are happy, your family should be supportive. Good luck!

  • Yes, just stop talking to her about wedding stuff so she won't be raining on your parade all the time!
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  • Thanks...think you're both right. I should have done that a looooong time ago! I feel like I should've thought of that but I guess sometimes you just need to hear things from someone else or an "outside party." Thanks again!
  • I feel your pain!!! I really didn't want to have a wedding. I would have been perfectly happy having an extremely small wedding with JUST immediate family. However, everyone else wanted a wedding so I gave in. It's no longer about us, and that's exactly what seems to have happened with you. This is why I don't enjoy planning my own wedding--it's not about me or my FI, it's about everyone else.

    However, you said the key words, you both love each other and know this marriage is right. So just ride this out for 3 more months and hopefully the wedding day will help everyone relax and have fun together!

    Best of luck!
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