My best friend

BaineTubb1205

I've known my best friend for 21 years (I'm only 25 now) and so when i got engaged i knew i wanted her to be a part of my big day. When h2b and me told her our news she didn't say anything and after some comments from her bf about being really quiet all she said was i better be a bridesmaid.
We hang out as couples alot so i have seen her with her bf but not really on my own. Now she seems to be ignoring my texts and avoiding me. And I've hardly mentioned the wedding to her and I got a little upset but i know shes wantd her bf to propose for a while so shrugged it off.
Now though I've heard that at our engagemnt party the other week her behaviour was terrible. Yes i was circulating and so didn't see her a much as i would have liked to but she knew 50% of the people there anyway. I've heard she was rude and behaving like a spoilt child.
I don't know whether she's going to come around and start being her normal self or if she is going to carry on like this until i cut her out of the wedding party.

GBCK

hmm, she DDed already.  Editing because I double posted in anticipation of that :-P

GBCK

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[QUOTE]I've known my best friend for 21 years (I'm only 25 now) and so when i got engaged i knew i wanted her to be a part of my big day. When h2b and me told her our news she didn't say anything and after some comments from her bf about being really quiet all she said was i better be a bridesmaid. We hang out as couples alot so i have seen her with her bf but not really on my own. Now she seems to be ignoring my texts and avoiding me. And I've hardly mentioned the wedding to her and I got a little upset but i know shes wantd her bf to propose for a while so shrugged it off. Now though I've heard that at our engagemnt party the other week her behaviour was terrible. Yes i was circulating and so didn't see her a much as i would have liked to but she knew 50% of the people there anyway. I've heard she was rude and behaving like a spoilt child. I don't know whether she's going to come around and start being her normal self or if she is going to carry on like this until i cut her out of the wedding party.
Posted by BaineTubb1205[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;">She's your Best-friend who you've known for 90% of your life.</span><div style="background-color:#ffffff;border:0px;font-size:12px;margin:0px;outline:0px;padding:0px;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;">She's acting weird.</div><div style="background-color:#ffffff;border:0px;font-size:12px;margin:0px;outline:0px;padding:0px;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;">Talk to her--NOT about the wedding, but about her and figure out why she's acting weird.</div>
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BaineTubb1205

I thought i was going to have to repost because it vanished when it posted.
She told me she had a week off work and i said we should do something then. All i got back was Oh i don't know what I'm doing I'll have to see and then nothing. She wont reply to my messages or talk to me. She's got a lot of positive things going on in her life at the moment and most the time we talk about her anyway.
TBH i think it's getting to me more than it should because a family member is losing a long battle with cancer, and i expected my best friend to maybe be there a bit more to support me. I'll keep trying with her i guess.

DG1

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[QUOTE]I've known my best friend for 21 years (I'm only 25 now) and so when i got engaged i knew i wanted her to be a part of my big day. When h2b and me told her our news she didn't say anything and after some comments from her bf about being really quiet all she said was i better be a bridesmaid. We hang out as couples alot so i have seen her with her bf but not really on my own. Now she seems to be ignoring my texts and avoiding me. And I've hardly mentioned the wedding to her and I got a little upset but i know shes wantd her bf to propose for a while so shrugged it off. Now though I've heard that at our engagemnt party the other week her behaviour was terrible. Yes i was circulating and so didn't see her a much as i would have liked to but she knew 50% of the people there anyway. I've heard she was rude and behaving like a spoilt child. I don't know whether she's going to come around and start being her normal self or if she is going to <strong>carry on like this until i cut her out of the wedding party.</strong>
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</div><div>::sigh::</div><div>
</div><div>Not talking about the wedding is great, but how about a little more sensitivity to whatever is going on with her? Using your words can go a long way.</div><div>
</div><div>Also? The people who were our BFFs when we were preschoolers aren't necessarily the people who we should be spending time with as adults. If she can't grow up and is really just acting like a petulant child over something petty, you need not feel obligated to maintain a bad friendship just because you've been friends for a while.</div>