The Wedding Ring Broke

jwolffe27

Not too long after my wedding, the tungsten wedding band I'd gotten for my husband essentially shattered. I was told that tungsten was indestructible but apparently the wedding bands aren't made of pure tungsten and can shatter. Talk about false advertising. My friends have tried to rationalize with me and say it's "just a ring" but I think we all know that it's more than that - it was supposed to be a symbol of a bond that will never break and within a month of wear - the symbol is broken and I'm still extremely upset about it.

Has anyone ever had this happen to them? I've been looking for more information on it and more information on what sort of new ring to get. I recently found a new facebook group dedicated to broken tungsten rings but am still looking for other places to sound off. I thought I'd ask your opinions and also see if any of you had any input.

The facebook group I found is http://www.facebook.com/pages/My-Tungsten-Ring-Broke/250169371749153 if anyone wanted to look at it and share their story as well. I'll be posting mine sometime tomorrow.

Wzz

i know i would be mad if my ring broke or got lost, but i would also put my energy into just getting a new ring.

i'm a complainer, but then i am also a "well now what are you going to do" kind of person.

MinM

Seriously, how many venues do you need to whine about before you move on, over a perfectly replaceable object. It was not antique...in fact, it was not even unique (see: the entire FB group). Get a new ring and move on.

NOLABridesmaid

A fb page for this.


smh

hmonkey

will the circle be unbroken
by and by, Lord, by and by
there's a better home awaiting
in the sky, Lord, in the sky

AuntFlo

My husband lost his band about 3 months after our wedding.   We've never replaced it - 6 years later.   I'm not sure if our marriage is going to make it.

MinM

AF - I am not even sure you are even legally married any more.

*Barbie*

you should probably see a therapist about this.

Cant_wait!

My husbands tungsten ring broke too. three times. We replaced it twice before he finally just stopped wearing a ring. Still married.

graffeo

I have to say i am one of those people that has to say i am kinda suprised that the ring broke. I have alot of friends who got married and bought the  tungston.  Maybe see if they will replace it esp if you have protection on the ring. idk where the ring broke but if it was at work then maybe he just has his ring on weekends. I think you  have to remember that your bond and symbol of marriage is what you make it not the ring. I still understand where you are coming from you got a ring that you thought would hold up and wor best for DH.  A side stone (very small stone) fell out of my e-ring back in nov. I was so so upset that my ring lost a diamond even a small one. I thought i found the diamond but turned out it was not. I went and got it fixed  it took me a week to go and do it but once it was done i felt so much better. I felt lucky to have my wedding ring bc if i did not my finger would have felt so weird. Anyway... Long and the short once you get the ring fixed you will feel better. I think you guys have to just see one if he gets a new one is he going to want to were it to work if he is hard on his hands and if he likes something better would it be best to get that since the orrigial ring did not hold up. 

peekaboo2011

Your marriage is now invalid.

mdeidre

You used a very powerful word in your post, SYMBOL.  The ring is a SYMBOL, it is not the magical representation of your marriage, like a sort of Voo Doo doll, whose destruction means the inevitable demise of your marriage.  I understand being pissed off, maybe even a little taken aback, but please don't waste energy going off the deep end.  Your marriage, hopefully, is based on more than just a ring and should take more than the destruction of that ring to be shattered.

I agree that you should check for a warranty or if you had protection or insurance on the ring and see if the company will replace it before you complain all over the place.  It could be that it's a simple matter to get a new one and they will apologize profusely.

jwolffe27

Haha, It's not as though I think that my marriage will end. I'm just frustrated - I put time and care into picking out this ring with my husband, they were blessed by the priest. It's the sentimental value of it - not that I'm worried my marriage is 'invalid." It's especially frustrating when the warrantee on the manufacturer page says "Triton is not responsible for the sentimental value of the original jewelry."

I also just wanted to let anyone know who was looking for a ring that Tungsten is not as indestructible as many people think.

josgirl

This is NOT uncommon. All of these answers are based on superstitions. It's ridiculous. Tungsten is NOT an indestructible metal, you're correct, that is false advertising. It is virtual un able to scratch. That's it. My friends who are married and have husbands in the military are told to stayawayfrom that metal because in their line of duty (hands on ) it's know to shatter. You should think about getting a 14k ring or just go for sterling silver if he wont know the difference! Yes, the ring will scratch and eventually lose it's shine BUT it's better than having it break again!

MegenQ

Sorry about the ring breaking. It is true that it will not scratch and dent like other metals, but the fact that it is made of Tungsten and is suppose to shatter as opposed to bending out of shape. My father, FI and FFIL are all machinists, and while they would not wear their rings to work, it they did and they got their hand stuck in a machine, the ring would shatter instead of bending like gold or silver, which could save their finger. My FI has seen first hand a guy wear his wedding ring, get it stuck in a machine and have to have the ring cut off of his finger to save it.