Wedding Day No-Shows

butterflyjumper1

This entire thread terrifies me:
http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_anyone-have-a-lot-of-no-shows 

I am shocked that so many people had THAT MANY NO SHOWS.

LADY324

I know and for me I am sorry if you just don't show up to our wedding when you said that you were coming and you don't have a legit reason you are done in my book!!

bridetobe71412

Ditto what LADY said!

butterflyjumper1

seriously....unacceptable. I am so hoping this doesn't happen to us, I will be SO. MAD.

One of the girls said that 80-90 people on her guest list didn't show up. That blew my mind. How is that even possible???

meggles114

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_wedding-day-no-shows?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:5e90bfb6-2e34-4e09-80a2-f9c660251678Post:02b7ff6a-0128-4508-84ad-114daf5415df">Re: Wedding Day No-Shows</a>:
[QUOTE]seriously....unacceptable. I am so hoping this doesn't happen to us, I will be SO. MAD. One of the girls said that 80-90 people on her guest list didn't show up. That blew my mind. How is that even possible???
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

Someone just asked me today what I would do if something like this happened... I said "I'd kick their @ss!"

But yeah... that is terrifying!! 

LADY324

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_wedding-day-no-shows?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:5e90bfb6-2e34-4e09-80a2-f9c660251678Post:02b7ff6a-0128-4508-84ad-114daf5415df">Re: Wedding Day No-Shows</a>:
[QUOTE]seriously....unacceptable. I am so hoping this doesn't happen to us, I will be SO. MAD. One of the girls said that 80-90 people on her guest list didn't show up. That blew my mind. How is that even possible???
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

Yeah I saw that too that seems really odd to me.  Maybe she had a church reception where everyone was invited or something.  That seems way too high of a number.

I had a friend just not show up to my shower.  She basically just forgot that it was my shower day.  We used to be a lot closer a couple of years ago.  I never see her anymore either so I did not send her a wedding invitation.  I know it is harsh but if I am not good enough for you to remember my shower then I don't want to celebrate one of the happiest days of my life with you.  And she didn't even reach out to me.  I reached out to her to see if everything was ok and she responded a day later. 

ceglare4

Good God, I can't believe that many people actually don't show up. I will be furious if this happens to us!

Amanda1443994

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_wedding-day-no-shows?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:5e90bfb6-2e34-4e09-80a2-f9c660251678Post:c48783b2-26ac-410f-b436-c4ab6a12c5f1">Re: Wedding Day No-Shows</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Day No-Shows : Yeah I saw that too that seems really odd to me.  Maybe she had a church reception where everyone was invited or something.  That seems way too high of a number. I had a friend just not show up to my shower.  <strong>She basically just forgot that it was my shower day.  We used to be a lot closer a couple of years ago.</strong>  I never see her anymore either so I did not send her a wedding invitation.  I know it is harsh but if I am not good enough for you to remember my shower then I don't want to celebrate one of the happiest days of my life with you.  And she didn't even reach out to me.  I reached out to her to see if everything was ok and she responded a day later. 
Posted by LADY324[/QUOTE]

That happened to me on Sunday! One of my friends came to my bachelorette party last Friday night and everyone was talking about my shower on Sunday. She never RSVPed no to my mom and told me she was coming. Well, she decided to go to the beach instead. Enough said.

arunkumar

We only invited close family and friends (130 people total), so I'd be really pissed if someone didn't come and had a lame excuse.  Ahh the thought of this makes me sick. Now I hope people think really hard about whether they can come to the wedding before they mail their rsvp card.

pillsburyaj

I had not considered this. I am kind of hoping that we only have about 140 people in total! 

hmacsine

I would be pissed about them wasting my money!

michelle11988

I would be so pissed if someone just didn't show up without a good reason.  I agree with Lady they would be done in my book!

brandeeteer

Wow - I would be mad especially since people know you pay per plate. And I can't imagine 90 guests not showing up - that's my whole guest list!

Nancy00714

Not to sound too optimistic (or to trash talk the rest of the country) but reading that thread it looks like east coasters don't have much to worry about.  I personally am not worried about no-shows at all.  (i'll let you know what happens)

I'd say that all the weddings I've ever been to have been for pretty close friends and I've never heard anyone say that they had a lot of no-shows.  There was that one chick who wrote that she had 80-90 no-shows :  we spoke with people the day before the wedding that vowed they wouldnt miss it for the world...we had at least @80-90 people that were no shows...I was floored!!!! I totalled overspent on linen..runners..chair covers..and FOOD!!

That's practically my whole wedding!  How does that happen.  Anyways, I'm hispanic, if you feed them they will come, is our motto!

LitaWB

This is exactly why I tried convincing my FI to NOT invite so many co-workers and cousins.  On top of it he also allowed his co-workers to bring a guest.  I really wanted to keep it just family and close friends- we would have better control over their whereabouts onour wedding day.  So, if we have alot of no-shows on his part I will be pissed and I will also be expecting a reimbursement from him (I'm paying for the reception and since it will be paid for before we are married- the 2 are 1 will not apply).  Sounds harsh but just another way of saying- I told you so.

ajmom2two

We are only inviting close friends and family so I am hoping we wont have many no shows, if we have any.  I cant believe having that many people RSVP yes that dont come.  We are hoping that about 10% RSVP no but we dont want any no shows!  Thats so horribly rude and I would be super PISSED!

ajmom2two

I really wonder if there was more to the 80-90 no shows.  That just seems outrageous!

Melissa.hylton

I just read the blog  post and I seriously just said out loud, "HOLY F***!" What I was most shocked by wasnt the orginal poster, it was the fact that everyone who commented at 8-15 no shows!!! WTF! This stems back to the whole NO RSVP BS. How hard is it to pick up a phone, message on fb, email, text, something! 

I would like to think FI and I both have very loyal friends and family. I just told him about this topic and he said he can see a few of his friends NO SHOWING. 

laceyr1985

O..wow..we only invited 41 people...hope at least half show up!!!!

elizabethmae315

This idea really upsets me. I dont like it, but yet completely understand, when people RSVP "no." at least they have the decency to know they cant be there. I understand a few last minute things come up though. 

We are thinking a few of FI's friends might pull the no-show card. or a few of my friends from school yet who might change their mind about the drive. Im hoping they dont. I'll print escort cards, and seat you at a table, and pay for your meal and enough alcohol to serve you. you better be there. 

BmoreBride311

That thread is terrifying. It's also terrifying that that many May brides have already had their weddings. I mean, logically that makes sense, but I just have a hard time grasping how close our weddings truly are now. Holy cow.

Lisariqua

OMG...this is my nightmare. I've been looking online trying to find the perfect sarcastic card to send to any no shows.