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tonilyon

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**O-Face**

I'm still stuck at third wedding/first marriage. 

VarunaTT

I'm really stuck at third wedding, but first marriage.  I mean, really, even if you were my BFF if I had planned 2 bachelorette parties and then you bailed on 2 marriages, I wouldn't be so eager to lay out time and $ again.

Also, Mistress of Ceremonies?

Generally, people not invited to weddings, don't do any pre-parties, b/c it's rude to invite them only to pre-parties and not weddings, so I think you're just a bit SOL.

ReturnOfKuus

I'm very confused.

6fsn

It's your third wedding and you aren't inviting anyone?  Yes, you are being petty.

zsazsa-stl

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_one-threw-type-of-pre-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:cdd08c14-ec34-43b0-bb67-ed3d8c7c0bf1Post:1e04bb51-a693-480d-87ee-1b9dbbd72222">No one threw ANY type of pre-wedding party for me.....</a>:
[QUOTE]Okay, I feel like I am being petty here.  <strong>It's my third wedding (but first marriage</strong> :) and his first.  Neither of my bridesmaids, nor my Mistress of Ceremonies, nor any family members did any celebrating with me because it's my "third time".  We are only inviting immediate family because thats what he truly wanted, so my friends are not thrilled that they were not invited so none of them did anything.  Since my coworkers were not invited, they don't even discuss it.  A future In-law stated that "I didn't want anything" because my schedule didn't work out with hers. So, am I really being petty, or am I allowed to feel kinda hurt about this?  
Posted by tonilyon[/QUOTE]

You know we need this story, right?  If you have planned three weddings and then something at the last minute happened to the first two, I wouldn't bother planning any pre-wedding parties for you at your third either, dear.

[Deleted User]

I am confused, too.

ReturnOfKuus

So you did have two other marriages, one lasting ten years, in fact.

**O-Face**

Yes, but since they didn't last they weren't REAL.  Duh.

rien713

Waaaaaaaaah.

**O-Face**

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_one-threw-type-of-pre-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cdd08c14-ec34-43b0-bb67-ed3d8c7c0bf1Post:053fae78-8485-46f7-98ab-f6ac8797f384">Re: No one threw ANY type of pre-wedding party for me.....</a>:
[QUOTE]Waaaaaaaaah.
Posted by rien713[/QUOTE]

Exactly.

VarunaTT

Well, you have had three marriages, love.

And honestly, for a third marriage, I wouldn't expect much.  Sad, but true.  I'd attend someone's 3rd wedding, but if I had doled money out for gifts twice already?  I probably wouldn't be doing it a 3rd time.

VarunaTT

Well, think of the reception as your place to get together and celebrate.  B/c it is.

Mrs.Thistletwat

You SOL. and you're petty. For someone who's been married 3 times you're not old enough to be married.

zsazsa-stl

Okay then, let me count....ummmm....three weddings and...



marriages. HTH

loveshine1

By the 3rd wedding, I wouldn't be so keen on sending gifts and throwing parties.

I'd congratulate you and probably go to the wedding if invited, but I wouldn't be getting you a lavish present if I already did that twice.

MrsMyrtle

If I didn't know that you were married - yes, married - three times, I'd guess you were 18.

Butter Cookie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_one-threw-type-of-pre-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cdd08c14-ec34-43b0-bb67-ed3d8c7c0bf1Post:1e04bb51-a693-480d-87ee-1b9dbbd72222">No one threw ANY type of pre-wedding party for me.....</a>:
[QUOTE]Okay, I feel like I am being petty here.  It's my third wedding (but first marriage :) and his first.  Neither of my bridesmaids, nor my Mistress of Ceremonies, nor any family members did any celebrating with me because it's my "third time".  We are only inviting immediate family because thats what he truly wanted, so my friends are not thrilled that they were not invited so none of them did anything.  Since my coworkers were not invited, they don't even discuss it.  A future In-law stated that "I didn't want anything" because my schedule didn't work out with hers. So, am I really being petty, or am I allowed to feel kinda hurt about this?  
Posted by tonilyon[/QUOTE]


You're being petty.

PS I also am not getting any wedding parties. I'm not getting my panties in a wad. It doesn't mean my friends don't love me.

Lauriac

If for some reason I get married again after my upcoming (and first) marriage (wedding), I'm JOPing it.

alikatt17

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: No one threw ANY type of pre-wedding party for me..... : Interesting coming from someone who's not married, or getting married for 3 more years..... oh yes, congratulations on the pregnancy. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.
Posted by tonilyon[/QUOTE]

FFS, not everyone puts their real wedding date in their profile.  If if she was pregnant and unmarried, it doesn't give you the right to judge her.  Especially since you're the one whining about not getting any parties for your third marriage that you aren't inviting anyone to witness.  I hope third time's the charm for you. 

TheDuckis

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_one-threw-type-of-pre-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cdd08c14-ec34-43b0-bb67-ed3d8c7c0bf1Post:fec3efeb-88e3-4749-88c4-2844bc4eae6c">Re: No one threw ANY type of pre-wedding party for me.....</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: No one threw ANY type of pre-wedding party for me..... : Interesting coming from someone who's not married, or getting married for 3 more years..... oh yes, congratulations on the pregnancy. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.
Posted by tonilyon[/QUOTE]

BWAHAHAHAHAHA. Nice try.

And for someone who clearly has so little respect for the sanctity of marriage, I don't really think you have a right to judge.

nannewmur

I look at it like this:  You don't invite someone to a wedding shower if you don't invite them to the wedding.  That is a general etiquette rule.  You are inviting very few people to your wedding (you stated immediate family) and it sounded like a few select friends.  Weren't your immediate family members invited to the previous ceremonies?  Money is extremely tight andf many are out of work and have cut back drasticly.  If I was not invited to a wedding, there is no way I would host a shower, party, etc, expecially with the economy like it is!!!

I feel you are expecting too much from your family and friends and should be realistic that this is your third rodeo and you are not a rookie any more and shouldn't expect a party/shower, etc.

lharri12

Well, you're throwing your own pity party. Does that count?

lpuffs88

Yes you're being petty. And I actually felt bad for you  until your bogus comment above about someone being pregnant and not married. At least they're not in denial about 2 failed marriages. What do you need a shower for? You've had 2 weddings, use your crap from them. Why would anyone want to throw a party for a bitter person?

Butter Cookie

Sorry you think it doesn't count if it doesn't work out perfect. If that's the case I could market it and make MILLIONS.

I was married before too. He was an abusive bastard. He did terrible terrible things to me. It doesn't mean I was any less married to him.

Oh. Nobody threw me a party then, either.