I feel naked without my ring... (vent)

aimeechris

We went to the store to look at rings for FI today.

While we are there the lady decides she is going to size me... she has me take my ring off and gets that thing that looks like a bunch of key chains to figure out my size.

She then proceeds to just toss it into her envelope to have sized, and I can come get it in a few days.

I can't stop missing my ring! I was too embarrassed to really get it back, because of the "what's the big deal, lady" look I got when I asked her how long before I could get it back.

Then she seemed to get an attitude, and just started acting like we weren't worth her time because FI wanted a cobalt ring with a design on it. It wasn't about the money, it was just the one he really wanted.

He narrowed it down to two different size 9 rings... one of them was bigger than the other, but this didn't stop her snarky attitude, "they are BOTH size 9."

In the end, he couldn't make up his mind (probably her attitude), and she proceeds to say, "these aren't going ANYWHERE."

I have been going to this store since I was 18. This was the worse experience ever. I have never had someone just take a ring without asking, or really explaining the process before hand. Nor had anyone been so rude when picking something specific out.

When we were getting ready to leave, I gave her the fake BIG smile which meant F**K OFF! and we left. I either got the same smile back, or she was just happy to see us go.

Now we are going to try and find another Jeweler out there for FI's ring, and hopefully I get mine back without it having been done wrong in some way. I am having all this anxiety due to her attitude after she took it that it might be damaged somehow on purpose.

Thanks for reading my rant!

MNNEBride

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[QUOTE]We went to the store to look at rings for FI today. While we are there the lady decides she is going to size me... she has me take my ring off and gets that thing that looks like a bunch of key chains to figure out my size. She then proceeds to just toss it into her envelope to have sized, and I can come get it in a few days. I can't stop missing my ring! I was too embarrassed to really get it back, because of the "what's the big deal, lady" look I got when I asked her how long before I could get it back.posted by aimeechris[/QUOTE]

So you didn't want/need your ring sized but didn't have the cajones to stand up to the salesperson? 

Sorry, your marriage card has been revoked.  You are not mature enough.

nattykins

I feel for you - I've only had my ring a week, but I'm so happy that it's the perfect size because I can't imagine being without it to get it sized!! Who would have thought you could get attached so quickly to what is essentially a piece of metal and some stones? 

Good luck with getting your FI's ring - that lady sounds like a real charmer

nattykins

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[QUOTE]In Response to I feel naked without my ring... (vent) : So you didn't want/need your ring sized but didn't have the cajones to stand up to the salesperson?  Sorry, your marriage card has been revoked.  You are not mature enough.
Posted by MNNEBride[/QUOTE]

Sometimes standing up to someone has nothing to do with maturity. I have social anxiety - I would never be able to stand up to someone in that situation but that has nothing to do with how mature I am.

skippylouwho

Call the store manager and complain.  If no one tells them there is a problem, they may not see it and can't fix it.

hmonkey

actually, maturity would require you to acknowledge your social anxiety and seek treatment for it, instead of blaming it for everything.

nattykins

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[QUOTE]actually, maturity would require you to acknowledge your social anxiety and seek treatment for it, instead of blaming it for everything.
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

I'm on a cocktail of meds and therapy - it's definitely acknowledged and being "treated". Still doesn't make social situations easier!  :)  (nor am I blaming it on "everything" - just stating a possible reason why standing up to someone wouldn't be easy, and would have nothing to do with maturity)

NOLABridesmaid

I'm not sure I understand this post at all.

1. Why leave your ring with a place you didn't like, received bad service or had to give the evil eye to the salesperson before leaving?

2. Aren't you going to cry more tears if your ring slips off of your finger, than having to part with it a few days?

aimeechris

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[QUOTE]I have been going to this store since I was 18. This was the worse experience ever. I have never had someone just take a ring without asking, or really explaining the process before hand. Nor had anyone been so rude when picking something specific out. [/QUOTE]

<p>Thanks nattykins.

Again this was just a vent.

I don't need to explain why on MOTHER'S DAY I don't want to make a scene.

It was at the store we purchased mine at, and I shopped at before. However it is the first time I needed anything sized.

Perhaps really read the post in the future, especially before making any rude comments proving how little attention you are showing.....

I was just looking to vent, and whether or not I pick a fight doesn't mean I am any less mature. I am just anxious about my ring and excited.

If all you have are negative comments, please keep them to yourself. We are all stressed right now, and you don't need to be jerks about it.

I thought, since you are all brides to be, or maybe already have been a bride, some of you might understand. It looks like only one person actually does, and you all attack her for it. Are you sure we are the immature ones?

I did email the store to let them know the situation, and we will see how it goes.</p>