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Rehearsal Dinner whinning

mzebmzeb
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My future in laws are taking care of the rehearsal dinner.  They want to host the dinner about 30-40 mintues away from our wedding site.  Its closer for them and easier for their out of town guests to attend. 
I am so annoyed by this!  What about my side of the family?  Its not easier for them!  Its  definitely not easier for my wedding party. 
I am being totally unfair about this?  How do I tell his family that I do not want the dinner that far away? 
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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    You can either:

    A) Realize that if they're paying for it, they get to decide where it's going to be

    or

    B) Pay for it yourself!

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  • NOLABridesmaidNOLABridesmaid member
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    edited December 2011
    They're paying for it, and you are mad about where they chose to have it. Hmmm.

    I think your family will be ok for one night. It's one night. Are they on the bus? Probably not. Is this really a woe?
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Seriously? 30 minutes away?  That's like an ETERNITY!  Not.  Get over yourself.  Your family gets to be very slightly inconvenienced for the RD.  His family/OOT guests get to be very slightly inconvenienced on the wedding day when they have to make the same trip from the opposite direction. 

    Also, "whinning" is not a word. I think you mean "whining."

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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_rehearsal-dinner-whinning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:d26e8e51-e301-4c77-824a-05da1c7ada90Post:5dfdc63d-7f3a-4cf0-bbba-243442aedfc6">Rehearsal Dinner whinning</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am being totally unfair about this?  How do I tell his family that I do not want the dinner that far away? 
    Posted by mzeb[/QUOTE]

    Yes, you are being unfair.  When someone throws you a party, you don't complain that it's inconvenient.  They're throwing you a party.  Accept it gracefully, with a spirit of gratitude.  Not spoiled, selfish entitlement.

    "How do I tell his family that I do not want the dinner that far away?"  You don't.  You tell them "thank you."  End of story.

    And it's WHINING.  One N.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    is this the only meal that your family will eat?  ever?  they can suffer for one meal.  Lord knows they will be suffering through your reception.

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  • katorigasukikatorigasuki
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    edited December 2011
    they are hosting.  they get to decide where the event takes place.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto everyone.  The people who pay get the say.
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  • *Barbie**Barbie* member
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    edited December 2011
    isn't your wedding inconvenient for OOT guests? i mean, you should plan wedding tour 2010 so NOBODY has to travel to come to the wedding. 

    they who pay, get the say. 


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  • notamrsnotamrs member
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    edited December 2011
    30 - 40 minutes?  Are you from a really small town?  'Cause that's standard travel time for a lot of places in larger towns.  (God knows I can't get anywhere in Atlanta without being in the car for at least 20-25 minutes.)

    Your guests will survive.  And yes, if in-laws are paying for it, they get to choose.
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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    It takes me 30-40 minutes to get to work everyday.  I should complain that they need to move the office closer.
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  • awesome-sauceawesome-sauce member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_rehearsal-dinner-whinning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:d26e8e51-e301-4c77-824a-05da1c7ada90Post:5fa4f3b8-675a-45a3-ac29-d5ca0d9ca193">Re: Rehearsal Dinner whinning</a>:
    [QUOTE]30 - 40 minutes?  Are you from a really small town?  'Cause that's standard travel time for a lot of places in larger towns.  (God knows I can't get anywhere in Atlanta without being in the car for at least 20-25 minutes.) Your guests will survive.  And yes, if in-laws are paying for it, they get to choose.
    Posted by notamrs[/QUOTE]

    My thoughts exactly. notamrs, you must be going 2 miles down the road in Atlanta if it only takes you 25 minutes. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
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  • E SquaredE Squared member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm just going to drop this off right here.

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  • katorigasukikatorigasuki
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    edited December 2011
    e^2 FTW.
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  • notamrsnotamrs member
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    edited December 2011
    Awesome-Sauce:  too true.  I just moved to a house that's about 9 miles from my office, so I was excited to cut my commute from 40 minutes+ to around 20.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I can't decide whether to respond to the topic or gloat about my 4 minute work commute.
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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    That's nothing! When I was a kid I had to walk 10 miles in the snow, even in the hottest parts of the summer, barefoot, carrying my satchel on my back, up hill both ways to get to the rehearsal dinner!
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    Don't listen to them.  Everyone knows it's all about the bride and her family.  Put your foot down and move it.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_rehearsal-dinner-whinning?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:d26e8e51-e301-4c77-824a-05da1c7ada90Post:5dfdc63d-7f3a-4cf0-bbba-243442aedfc6">Rehearsal Dinner whinning</a>:
    [QUOTE]My future in laws are taking care of the rehearsal dinner.  They want to host the dinner about 30-40 mintues away from our wedding site.  Its closer for them and easier for their out of town guests to attend.  I am so annoyed by this!  What about my side of the family?  Its not easier for them!  Its  definitely not easier for my wedding party.  I am being totally unfair about this?  How do I tell his family that I do not want the dinner that far away? 
    Posted by mzeb[/QUOTE]

    <div>For safekeeping. </div><div>
    </div><div>Andplusalso, I have to echo everyone else's posts. You must be from a small-ass town, yo. Or Denver, where driving for 40 minutes makes you want to kill people. </div>
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