So, my sister and I have never been close and because of that unfortunately I don't get to be too close to my niece who is 8. I love my niece and whenever my sister isn't looking she loves me.
I asked my sister if my niece could be a junior bridesmaid. Her initial answer was "let me think about it". About 2 weeks go by with no answer so we finally call her and she says of course she can be in the wedding but that my niece has a lot of anxiety (this is a kid who performs in musicals) and that she wants to wait until as late as possible to tell my niece. I said fine, whatever, but you have to order her dress by 2/1/11. At this point she then told me that is fine but no empire waist dresses (my niece is a little chunky). I told her that she will have two choices, the grown up version of the flower girl dress or the junior version of the BM dress. She is lucky she has two choices none of the other girls did.
Anyway, she then says she doesnt want anyone to tell my niece. I say ok, very few people in my family know exactly who is in my bridal party anyway so I will make sure those that do know don't tell her that she is in the wedding. Then she says, no I don't want her to know you are getting married, so spread the word to the family to not discuss it when we are all together......
IS SHE OUT OF HER F-IN MIND?? I am 32, getting married for the first time. I have been through an abusive relationship and a series of assholes. I found myself 3 years ago in CoDA and found the guy of my dreams a year ago and I am marrying him. I have every right to talk about it. I'm sad enough as it is that I don't get to ask my niece to be in the wedding that I have to abide by her requests since she is her mother, but she doesn't get this... I get to talk about my wedding. She went as far as calling my aunt who is hosting Thanksgiving to tell her to spread the word not to talk about it.
Thanksgiving will be the first time we will have seen the family since getting engaged so no one has seen my ring or anything. I'm PISSED. I have a future Mrs. shirt and I am so tempted to wear it to thanksgiving dinner just to spite her. I have come to the realization that most likely she is going to pull my niece out of the wedding anyway so why not just do what I want.
ARRRGGHHH....
We welcomed our girls on 11.7.12 @ 40w0d!
Emerson Lily 6 lbs 13 oz & Ellis Willow 6 lbs 9 oz