DEAR MISS MANNERS -- My husband and I were invited to a (sort-of) wedding. I say sort-of because the invitation went something like this:You are not invited to the actual wedding. You are invited to view a recording of the wedding, which will be held at a certain hour. After viewing the recording of the wedding, you are invited to the reception.And, since the couple has lived together as man and wife, they have all the household stuff they need. However, you are asked to bring money for the "money tree." Ha! Did they really think money grew on trees?Would you, Miss Manners, have even bothered to spend $4 on a congratulatory card, plus what it cost to mail the card? Do you feel I wasted my money, considering the couple's stupid request?