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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    A quote from a Jezebel article:

    "I will eat my hat on the day that we see an op-ed piece from a father to his son about how he regrets sleeping with so many women before marrying the boy's mother and how our nation's boys are being raised to be an army of sluts."

    We could even discuss this today, if we'd like.
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    edited December 2011

    I like that one, and you already know how I feel.

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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Likewise!  But there are other things we can say about it, more anecdotally, too.  Like, has anyone ever heard a man make a statement like that, that he wishes he'd slept with fewer people?
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    edited December 2011
    What about this one?

    I was talking with a girl about breaking up with her bf and she said that some of her friends said that she should just start messing with girls because it's easier, and they understand what it's like to be a girl.

    Student says, "I'm thinking about it."

    smh, yes I'm smh
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    Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    I've never heard a man say that.

    Maybe cleaner people, but certainly not less.


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    edited December 2011
    I've never had a guy say those exact words, but I have had a guy say that he wishes he didn't use so many girls aat a young age for sex. I think he had regrets about hurting their feelings after he got what he wanted.
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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I've heard a few guys say that, but quietly, and always as though they were a little ashamed of feeling that way.  I wonder if most men just don't feel that way, or if there are more that do and they just don't feel comfortable saying so.  I guess we'll never know.
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    **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    Hmm.

    If I ever talk about sex in passing regarding when I was younger, H says always "you were my first", which I know is a lie.  But he remains steadfast at that.
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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I know a lot of people who do this, too.
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    **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    Really kuus?  I thought H was weird.

    It's like he doesn't even want to go down that road with me. I  am very open, but he is very...not open.
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    Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    It would weird me out if someone lied to me about me being their first. Why lie? Do you turn into She-Hulk upon hearing about previous lady gardens he may have been traipsing through?
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    **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh we never lied about that, but in conversation, he's all "you WERE my first".  As in?  I have no idea...I just say, "OH, h" ::eyeroll::
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    TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    Did I miss where there's an op-ed from a woman like this? I don't know any women who regret their more promiscuous days.
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    Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    I regret some of my choices. I admit to that. But you all know I've dated some losers who I never should have given the time of day.
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    hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    oface, do you ever say, "oh dh -- you were not my first.  not by a long shot"?
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    TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    I think regretting dating losers is different from regretting the actual dating/sexing. I regret looseleaf letter writer every day of my life, and there are a couple of other specific people that I look back and wonder what I was thinking. But I'm not ashamed of the number of partners I've had, or of what I did with them.
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    **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    No.  But I usually laugh at him.  And do the "oooh  riiiiight".
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    hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    i'm not ashamed of my past, either.  GOD BLESS THE BROKEN ROAD

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    LoveMuffinsLoveMuffins member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_whats-going-topic-tomorrow?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:d98b3673-862f-4e2d-81e5-ffec1a8ed9ddPost:c5db4c17-3a3f-4781-a888-7130582a46f5">Re: So, What's going to be the topic tomorrow?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Did I miss where there's an op-ed from a woman like this? I don't know any women who regret their more promiscuous days.
    Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

    ME! I DO!
    Mostly because I had such low self-esteem at the time, and there was no other reason for me to be sleeping around. Well, and i was really <em>really</em> horny. But mostly the low self esteem. It's hard when you're 22 and your BF of 6 years breaks up with you for a 16 year old. Granted... he didn't know she was 16. but still. I knew. And didn't tell him. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /> oops.

    I know that FI doesn't regret anyone he's slept with, but since he's slept with less people than I have and he's lucky number 7 for me, his standards for what makes someone promiscuous are a little diff from most other people's =P But he's def one of those guys who ONLY sleeps with girls he's in a relationship with, and doesn't think that promiscuity in males or females is a good thing.
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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, there's an op-ed that I didn't post, because it was largely unrelated - the woman only posted about regrets as a sidebar when talking about something else entirely.

    I don't see a lot of people LYING about being a virgin, per se.  It's like, they know in the beginning that each other has a past, and then after that initial semi-candor, they pretend they're firsts.  It's weird.
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    nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    7 partners does not a slutty past make, IMO.
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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Well, it depends on how old you are and how long a time you spent acquiring those partners.  But honestly?  IMO 7 does seem like a lot.
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    LoveMuffinsLoveMuffins member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_whats-going-topic-tomorrow?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:d98b3673-862f-4e2d-81e5-ffec1a8ed9ddPost:28492946-e2e0-445b-957d-943788c8ded3">Re: So, What's going to be the topic tomorrow?</a>:
    [QUOTE]7 partners does not a slutty past make, IMO.
    Posted by nicoleg1982[/QUOTE]

    That's what I keep telling FI!!! lol

    I agree with Kruus though... I don't REALLY regret any of them, but I wish that I'd had more confidence in myself and didn't have quite such a high number. Considering that until I was 22 I'd only been with one guy EVER, I kinda feel like I plowed through guys real fast. I went from having only ever slept with one guy to having slept with 6 in about 6 months. One thing I AM proud of myself for is that while I was on my drunken, hazy binge of low confidence and self-destructive behavior, I only had 1 one night stand. =P But I just hated myself so much at that point that I also couldn't stand anyone who was interested in me for more a few weeks.
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    nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    edited December 2011
    Meh.  At my age, that's not even one a year.  However, I am not one to be overly prudish about sexual partners in relation to sluttiness.  I think that's for personal justification though.  ;)
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    LoveMuffinsLoveMuffins member
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    edited December 2011
    Hahahaha I agree. I have friends that I know most people would call sluts, but I don't think of them that way even though they've slept with way more people than I have. The only person I ever judge for the amount of sexual partners is myself... go figure. And I think mostly I judge myself because when I did it, I knew I was only doing it to make myself feel better about myself and not because I cared about the guy.
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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I generally only judge people I'm considering sleeping with, unless it's for fun, like here.
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