1.Why can't some women just talk to their men? I keep seeing this and it bothers me. This is how you end up with a husband you don't trust with the kids. 2. Isn't an Xbox $200 or less. How would that cut into a ring budget? So, I assumed that when Mr. K asked me to marry him and said that he was "working on the ring" it meant that he was saving up for it. He has known for quite some time my love for all things that sparkle, so I directed him to what I wanted. April 9 th was when he asked, the 10 th is when I directed him to what I would like. Last week I asked him if he had looked at my selection, he said yes, and made sure that that was what I wanted. No other word confirming that he had ordered the ring or what. Today he bought a new x-box. And that perplexes me. Engagement and marriage had been a touchy issue for us for some time. He was not into commitment/marriage for a very long time and recently decided that he did want to spend the rest of his life with me. But because of our history, I've been hesitant to ask: 1) what does "working on" getting the ring mean? and now 2) Should I assume that he's bought the ring and had left over money to blow on an x-box? It took me a good 2 weeks to be convinced that his asking me to marry him was real. After all the anti-commitment stuff and my new found independence, it really came as a shock. I was getting use to the idea of not ever getting married. Happy with the thought, even. Not that I ever doubted wanting to spend my life with Mr. K, but I know that these things don't always work the way our hearts want them to. With no mention of the ring being on the way, him showing off his new x-box put me in a funk. And I'm afraid to ask where his priorities are. He doesn't want to tell his family until he gets a ring to me and that leaves me feeling like our engagement isn't real until he gives me a ring. His asking me was to make sure I'd still say yes but maybe he doesn't want to go there yet. I was willing to be patient for a ring; him actually wanting to share a life with me is incredible and everything I've dreamed of. But how he made it sound like he was saving up for a ring to make it official and then blows money on a game system... What do you think? Poke at the touchy subject and feel like a materialistic brat (even though I told him a couple weeks ago that he should hurry up and get the ring so I can tell his cousins..so exciting!...and that is a huge motivator for me to get a ring)... or just wait it out and hope that he took care of the ring before he bought a stupid video game system in which he did not need? I jumped the gun at work and told co workers the monday after he proposed, and they consistently ask where the ring is...which is not helping with my frustration! I wish I felt like it was real without the ring. But without it... I really don't want to refer to him as FH. Sorry that this is a rant; I appreciate your advice and patience!
"I would be sad if sex was only about the climax, lame." Someone who is obviously doing it wrong
