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Inviting Old Friends?

I have been mulling this idea around in my head for a while since me and my boyfriend have talked about getting married.

 Should I invite old friends of mine? 

Why am I having such a hard time with inviting them? Well, a bit of backstory may be needed. Back in '07 is when I first started dating Chris-Jon via online in Florida. None of my friends where very 'thrilled' of the thought of a long distance relationship for me and pushed me to find someone local. But with Chris-Jon being a honestly sweet, nice, man with a bold, charming and refreshing personality, it was hard even thinking of giving that up. Fast-foward to '09. Desicion time! If the relationship was to move any forward one of us was going to have to move. With me not rooted anywhere too heavily I chose to move to Texas to be closer to him. This was not pleasing to the same set of friends who said I was making a bad descicion to move for "love", things would crash and not work out. 

Now after two years of living here in Texas I find myself starting to hear the chime of lovely wedding bells off in the distance. I think my friends back in Florida may have finally realized how much of great guy I have been dating for the past 4 years. Or just at least caring that I am happy. 

But, Honestly I feel like I should not even bother sending them an invitation or even a save the date card. For the reasons; 1. I doubt they would actually put in any effort into coming here to be at the wedding and 2. I want my wedding to be small and personal. 

So! My question again and rephrasing it this time in conclusion. Should I send invitations and save the date cards to them out of respect of our semi-close friendship? Or just send them a text/email saying "Hey, I'm getting married!" Wink

Re: Inviting Old Friends?

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    ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know.  Invite the people you consider to be friends, leave off the ones who are friendly acquaintances.

    What's with Chris-Jon, though?  That's so awkward.  Why not just Chris, or Jon, or CJ?
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    edited December 2011
    Do you still talk to these people?
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    *Barbie**Barbie* member
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    edited December 2011
    Ladybug, is that you?
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    InksWellInksWell member
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    edited December 2011
    Is Chris-Jon supposed to sound like "Christian"?

    Do not invite them unless they have contacted you in a way that is not facebook or *God forbid* myspace in the last 3-4 months.
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    padunkerspadunkers member
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    edited December 2011
    He was named after someone by the same name. I too was questioning his name when I first met him. But after a while you get use to it and enjoy the uniqueness that his Chris-Jon! Yeah, you can call him Chris, Jon, CJ, Ceej, Christopher Johnathan, but to me he is my sweet Chris-Jon. ;) 
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    padunkerspadunkers member
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    edited December 2011
    I try to occasionaly, see how they are going. Try to work on projects to do with each other but more or less it just has grown distant over the past two years. Which is sad cause we were all close friends when I lived in Florida. I suppose they will just have to deal with any offense on their own cause I would prefer to just have family and close friends there. 
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    *Barbie**Barbie* member
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    edited December 2011
    i think you should have a shirtless meat buffet and be done with it.
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    padunkerspadunkers member
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    edited December 2011
    What? Haha! No, I am thinking of strawberries and other delishious fruits! But thanks for the suggestions ya'll. 
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