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WDWWT?

Please to be recalling preggo-trainwreck...The one who is 31 (ish), got pg by a guy who she knew for about 5 min, when he found out she was pg, he said, "I should have gotten the vasectomy.", she openly slutted it up so much that people asked her who the father was, she had an invite list for her shower of 60 co-workers, oh and she has the personality of a doorknob.  I could go on. but I'll stop there. 

She's now mommy-trainwreck and her baby's about to be 1.

This week, she went around and handed out invites to her son's 1st birthday party to *everyone* (25 people) in the dept.  A co-worker is hosting the party at her house. 

I see this as a gift grab.  1st b-day parties are for family and *close* friends.  The party is for the parents, it's just another day to the kid, except they get to smash cake and make an unholy mess and everyone laughs and thinks it's cute and funny.

Your thoughts?


Re: WDWWT?

  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    I loathe big parties for little kids. They're pointless and wasteful and, yes, just gift grabs. 
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    i don't think first birthdays are gift grabs.  however, i adore most of my friends' kids, and i give them little gifts a lot (sometimes just stickers or a pack of crayons).  i've been to a few first birthdays, and it was just treated like any other gtg or barbecue, just with the guarantee of cake.
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  • SchmoopitaSchmoopita member
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    edited December 2011
    My sister has a big get together every year for each of her 3 kids. I side eye it. She complains about money but spends a ton on food and drinks for a houseful of people. What ever happened to cake and ice cream with close family?
  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto Bmom unless you are inviting your big family who expects it.  Co-workers?  Hell no.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree that a first birthday should be small.  Most one year olds will be indifferent at best, freaked out at worst, when two dozen random people show up from Mommy's office.  It's not really developmentally appropriate.  

    Oh, and this is a personal thing, but I'm not a big cake smash fan.  I get that she'll make a mess of it, but I think it's confusing for a little kid if you normally tell them "Food is for eating, not for playing," and then encourage them to smash the cake.  Don't be surprised when they try it again with spaghetti the next day.  

    Cake smash photo shoots--not candids from the party, but staged with a photographer--are like the TOJ packets/bathroom poems of TB. 
  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    Bday parties are not for coworkers.  Ours are usually whole day events because people travel a couple of hours for them. 
  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    sorry, i amend my comments -- zsa brings up an excellent point.  i go to friends' kids' parties, not co-workers.

    my old inappropriate boss invited the entire dept to her kids' christenings and birthdays.  i declined, but other dept people felt obligated to go.  it's the boss, after all.

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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    We had friends at Bacon's first, but I would never have invited coworkers. People who know and like the kid are fine. 25 coworkers and a clown and a pony dressed up as a unicorn and a bouncehouse? Yeah, no. 
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  • edited December 2011
    I always thought kids' parties were an excuse for the adults to get together.
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