FMIL and ex girlfriend...

RichSteph21210

So I think my FMIL still really likes my FI ex girlfriend. She was talking about her this past christmas in front of me saying she was such a nice girl and she didn't know why they broke up. We saw her again today at a ring ceremony at school and when she went up on stage my FMIL turned to her mom and started whispering there she is and all this. Then when we are all trying to meet up after the thing ended outside... I walk up to find her standing next to his ex and her family and it was very awkward. I know it is probably irrational since I am the one he proposed to but I felt so self conscious not to mention I feel like his mom likes her more.. any advice on this topic??

amocksun

I'm sorry, I don't have any advice but I would be upset too. I think that's very inconsiderate of her.

LexiS2011

I agree. I would talk to your FI about it. He may be jsut as uncomfortable, or there may be conversations going on with his mother that you should know about, so you're prepared for being her DIL for the rest of her life.

I am so sorry you're in that situation. I have been in similar. I can only send you good vibes and hope she stops. =(

RichSteph21210

I talked to him but really he just thinks his mom was trying to be nice and that not saying hello would have been rude. He never spoke to her or anything and actually made me feel good by pulling me close. anyway I have always kind of felt like his mom is very stand off-ish to me and maybe it is the difference in how we were raised... My family is the kind that does everything together, we hug, we kiss, we tell each other we love them. His family on the other hand isnt that way and I am the only person that he says i love you to, not even his mom gets that. So maybe it is just the difference in how we are.

TheDuckis

Ring ceremony at school? Are you guys 17?

Love is Bald

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[QUOTE]Ring ceremony at school? Are you guys 17?
Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

My exact thoughts.

skippylouwho

Quite a few colleges make a big deal out of rings - especially Texas A&M but there are others too.  For schools like Texas A&M, getting your ring is strictly controlled. You can't order it until you've completed a specific number of hours and you can only order it through the school.

JennaV26

I had a ring ceremony before I graduated college. There was this whole shebang about wearing your ring this way until you graduate and turning it when you walk the stage... blah blah. My mom made me do it!!!!! haha But no seriously, she did.

tommyandy

If FI & ex were together for a long time, she may have become friends with FMIL.  FI & ex may have split because it was time to move on.  Not all break-ups are horrible & a few people are able to be friends a few years later.  If you got engaged in a short time after you started dating, FMIL may not have had time to adjust.  HTH

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I would be irritated if my MIL did that. Luckily my DH's ex-girlfriends all sucked so they are in mo way the favorites. I've only had to deal with that once when a friend was going through pictures withDH (we were dating at the time) and the ex was in a few of them. But the friend got all flustered because he realized he was now showing me pictures of my DH hugging another chick so he quickly put the pictures away.

That in itself was awkward, so i don't know what I'd do if my MIL was constantly talking about an ex.

RichSteph21210

Are we 17? no. It's called a college ring and yes it is Texas A&M. apparently some are intimidated by others who are younger than them.

@tommyandy: It had been about a year after they broke up that we started dating but it has been four years that we have dated. However, I am marrying her only son and things have been getting better lately with no mention of the ex.

@ Seshat411: I know exactly what you mean by going through old pictures it happened to me as well when we first started dating.

Thanks all for your comments like I said things have been looking up I think she is finally realizing that she is stuck with me lol. plus I know that this is probably hard for her being that 2 years ago her husband died and now I am marrying her only child.