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Poll, inspired by a response on S&R

On S&R, there's one of the usual polls about virgins and waiting for marriage and whatnot, and a woman on there said that her husband told her that he wishes he'd slept with other women, and this makes her feel bad.  I absolutely think this is an assh*le thing to say, and completely inappropriate to say to your SO even if it is how you feel.  But it got me thinking: what things have your husbands said to you that they should have probably told a platonic friend instead?

I'm totally okay going first.  Mr. Kuus was on a roll for a while there of saying things like "I wonder if I'd have made fewer rookie mistakes with us if I'd dated around more beforehand", which was fine.  Then it progressed to "I wish I'd gotten the confidence that dating more probably would have given me," which was ehh but still okay.  But predictably, like a serial killer, he escalated it until one day it we were looking through his yearbook (I had been using it as a sort of lap desk) and he pointed out a picture of a girl and said that he had asked her out and she said no, and then the following year she asked him out and he said no, and he wishes he would have said yes because it probably would have been a first domino to things going differently.  This is where I lost my sh*t and yelled at him to make some f*cking friends already, because our house is not a damn locker room.
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Re: Poll, inspired by a response on S&R

  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    I know H has said some really Are you a flucking moron? things but I can't think of anything specific right now.

    Does it count that he shares WAY too much with me about what's going on with his bowels? I don't give a good flipping damn if what you made yourself for lunch is doing X to your bowels. STOP TALKING ABOUT YOUR FLUCKING BOWELS!
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    No, the bowels don't count, but only because I like to talk about my poo to Mr. Kuus, and that means that it is therefore objectively acceptable.
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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm way too prudish about bodily functions, and I fully admit that, but for seriouslies? Does it need to be interjected into every conversation? Do I need a play-by-play about where, exactly, in the length of your bowels your poop is?
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  • edited December 2011
    H and I were platonic friends before we dated, so I know all the locker room isht.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh yeah, and about a month ago he woke up and rolled over with this weird look on his face, and said "I just had a sex dream about BIL's girlfriend - eww!"   Dude seriously needs to make some friends.
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    edited December 2011
    Well, I posted on FB about the weight thing.

    He also made the comment early on when I asked him how many people he'd slept with, Oh honey, more than I have fingers or toes.  THAT skeeved me out.  I almost ran, but was satisfied with his clean bill of health he had to present after that sucker.


  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    Was it the number or the cavalier way he said it that bugged you?
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  • AuntFloAuntFlo member
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    edited December 2011
    What DOESN'T my DH say that he should keep to himself or share with his friends?  DH has no filter and no tact.
  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    edited December 2011
    Kuus, both. I try to have an open mind, but I already thought my number was high and he had doubled it and some.  I think it's one of those things where I'm a walking human contradiction.
  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    well, dh and i went to the same teeny college, so i know exactly who and what kind of junk drawers he's been rummaging around in.
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  • edited December 2011
    My number is WAY higher than H's.
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  • MrsMyrtleMrsMyrtle member
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    edited December 2011
    When we were first dating, H prided himself on the fact that he could "speak without thinking." It was funny for awhile, then we had to have a "Seriously. Keep it to yourself" discussion. He's been good ever since.
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  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    edited December 2011
    I am a walking contradiction in this area, too.  I ask H questions about his past gfs and then get upset when he tells me too much or when he tells me things about his ex that I don't want to know.  Somehow I kind of like to hear about the high school and college gfs but not the ex-wife.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    H told me - when I was pregnant, mind - that he was going to break up with me before the stick turned pink. 

    Of course, my revenge was a hormone-fueled crying jag that lasted two days. I swear, he hasn't said anything so mean since. 
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