Maybe I expect too much?

WendyTB

Most of my bridesmaids live out of state, as such I expected they would all collaborate together,having the one who lived in the area do things such as find locations to have my bridal shower? Now it looks like I won't be having one, because I found out from my maid of honor she can't get ahold of the local bridesmaid. I'm starting to feel like I'm expecting too much to want a bridal shower....It's my only wedding and I just want one.

MrsJacobs2B

Could your mother or his mother help out in some way?  I know traditionally the mothers aren't supposed to help, but my sister is my MOH and since she's only 21, and has no money since she's in college, my mother helped with mine.

You're not expecting too much.  I've discovered that it's a fine line between what brides consider to be reasonable and appropriate, and what everyone else considers to be "bridezilla."  I wish the best for you 

WendyTB

I did talk to my mom, and she is trying to find out what's going on. I just don't know how much time all this is going to take. The wedding is in like 41 days.

AutumnFair

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[QUOTE]Most of my bridesmaids live out of state, as such I expected they would all collaborate together,having the one who lived in the area do things such as find locations to have my bridal shower? Now it looks like I won't be having one, because I found out from my maid of honor she can't get ahold of the local bridesmaid. I'm starting to feel like I'm expecting too much to want a bridal shower....It's my only wedding and I just want one.
Posted by WendyTB[/QUOTE]

<div>If the MOH can't get in contact of the local BM then the MOH needs to continue on without the local BM. The local BM doesn't seem to be interested or is too busy to help with the Bridal Shower, so if your MOH wants to plan something there are many sources ex. the internet, phone book, or even the local knot boards to get an idea of places to have your shower. All pre-wedding parties are optional, so if your MOH can't afford or have time to plan you may have to come to the realization of might not be getting one. If your mom wants to help the MOH than give them each other's numbers and be done with it. </div><div>
</div><div>Your MOH shouldn't be dragging you into this in the first place. </div>

zitiqueen

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[QUOTE]Most of my bridesmaids live out of state, as such I expected they would all collaborate together,having the one who lived in the area do things such as find locations to have my bridal shower? Now it looks like I won't be having one, because I found out from my maid of honor she can't get ahold of the local bridesmaid. I'm starting to feel like I'm expecting too much to want a bridal shower....It's my only wedding and I just want one.
Posted by WendyTB[/QUOTE]

You can <em>want</em> a bridal shower; it doesn't mean you're going to get one. Disappointing, but that's life. Anybody can throw one; it doesn't have to be a BM. An aunt, cousin, neighbor, anybody (but you) can host it.