Who is here?

HookaPants

And wants to talk about a crazy chick from where I cheat? Because I'm bored, but I don't leave until 6.

MinM

Me

NOLABridesmaid

I've got about 15 minutes.

*Barbie*

me

Paulo's Menina Bela

Me

Mrs.Thistletwat

me! Entertain me for the next 28 minutes

TheDuckis

Um, since when do you have to ask?

hmonkey

:: rubs hand together anxiously ::

jojobrn

I've got about 30 minutes before I go take a nap for my overnight shift tonight, hit me.

HookaPants

Mkay. This girl is supposedly moved on to the love of her life and can't wait to be married to him. She posted this yesterday or the day before:

I saw my ex-fi last night... for the first time in a few months.  And he was with some chick, totally hanging all over him.  Well, the last thing I said to him a few months ago was pretty hateful, so I took it upon myself to apologize...  Well apparently I have ALOT of anger towards him still.  And it came out last night, and I couldn't let anything go.  To the point that after he left I texted him (drunkenly) trying to get across the point of how much I hate him... Well, Jason got really upset with me because I'm still really hurt by him and I can't just "let it go''.

I'm wondering how do you get closure?  Or does that not happen?  I hate that I am so angry with him (to the point I honestly wish he would die, I'm not even kidding) and I hate that it is still affecting me, and that is has so much power over me and it's now affecting my current relationship.  Any advise?

(and 100 points to you if you can make out my emotional ramblings!)


She really could stand to use real punctuation. Yes, she's dating someone else and wants to marry him. So she says. I say she needs to be single. for a bit longer.

NOLABridesmaid

Tough Love Couples.

HookaPants

She posted this a few (literally 2-3) days before she saw him:

I occationally "stalk" my ex-fi's facebook... trying to figure out if he's unhappy/miserable... which I don't think he is, but I pretend... it makes me feel better about how bad he hurt me.  At least he's still single. lol

My whole thing is this. If she's ready to marry someone else. WhyTF does she care if he's unhappy/single/whatever? ExFi and I broke up and I didn't date for a good year after. I don't give a damn what he's up to now. If I saw him, I'd acknowledge him, but the desire to run him over with my car is long gone.

Mrs.Thistletwat

She needs to move far away and date herself for a while. She needs to be happy with herself.

*Barbie*

I say she needs to take this to Springer and work it out in a swimming pool of Jello. 

TheDuckis

That's a mess. I don't think anyone who's still that hung up on an ex should be getting married.

hmonkey

no kidding, hooka.

exbfs go on "ignore" in my life after it's over.  if i ran into one in real life, i would be surprised that he wasn't dead after all the wishing i did, but i would probably say "hey."

HookaPants

Everyone is all, "Time heals all wounds" and all that sht. No one told her she's crazy and needs to spend time alone. Sometimes, "Wainch,you're crazy and need to sit it down somewhere" is what people need to hear.

She whines because  new BF isn't too thrilled about the idea of proposing to her and she can't see why. Does it need to be spelled out for you?

She's also one of those women who feels her ring has to be at least 1ct and blah, blah, blah. Her first ring wasn't 1ct. She showed pictures.

TheDuckis

Also, I love that in her attempt to appologize, she foud out she was still very angry and apparently berated him until he left, and then continued via text message.

Why does she even still have his number?

jojobrn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_here-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:f3cb1f7a-491a-4d2d-9152-941624dcc6fcPost:5db2dadd-5bcd-4b00-94cf-e6fcd7dd8fec">Re: Who is here?</a>:
[QUOTE]She posted this a few (literally 2-3) days before she saw him: I occationally "stalk" my ex-fi's facebook... trying to figure out if he's unhappy/miserable... which I don't think he is, but I pretend... it makes me feel better about how bad he hurt me.  At least he's still single. lol My whole thing is this. If she's ready to marry someone else. WhyTF does she care if he's unhappy/single/whatever? ExFi and I broke up and I didn't date for a good year after. I don't give a damn what he's up to now. If I saw him, I'd acknowledge him, but the desire to run him over with my car is long gone.
Posted by HookaPants[/QUOTE]

Do you have any idea what he did to her that was so horrible? She needs lots of counseling and she needs stat.

MinM

She needs to spend some time working on herself before she tries another relationship. Girlfriend needs come closure.

hmonkey

i'm surprised he hasn't changed his number.

MinM

He probably has by now - if he knows what is good for him.

HookaPants

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_here-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:f3cb1f7a-491a-4d2d-9152-941624dcc6fcPost:dd71be6d-5606-4288-a2aa-c9bb956b1d24">Re: Who is here?</a>:
[QUOTE]Also, I love that in her attempt to appologize, she foud out she was still very angry and apparently berated him until he left, and then continued via text message. <strong>Why does she even still have his number?</strong>
Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

I don't even know where my ex lives. I'm talking country. Phone number? Pbbbbbt.

hmonkey

if he really knew what was good for him, he'd dig a moat around his house and fill it with broken glass and gasoline.

HookaPants

She moved 2k miles away from her family because she was so in luuuuuuuuuuuuuv (aka: young and stupid). He cheated and they broke up. She's still not over it and it's been 9 months.

hmonkey

how old are these children?

HookaPants

I don't know. I may have to actually register to see that part.

MinM

I'm imagining there were all sorts of warning signs that this chick should not have moved for this guy before the fact, but she chose to ignore them.

HookaPants

Oh, it gets much better. He proposed  AFTER she moved. Why did she say yes? Because she felt she had to even though she felt it was too soon. The ring wasn't right (read: not 1 ct)  and he proposed at a buffet restaurant during lunch and went back to work afterward.

MinM

OF COURSE HE DID.

HookaPants

I'm just a bit put off by her knowing the relationship didn't feel right and instead of using her words like a big girl, she said nothing. I don't know him or his side, but her attitude probably led him to cheat. Not that I condone what he did.