My future mother in law keeps trying to get my mom to plan my shower down by her (she lives 2 hours away). When I told her that will not be happening because most of the guests live by me she insisted on throwing me a separate shower. This is very generous but I find it very unnecessary. The reason why she is insisting is because her family refuses to drive 2 hours. I am comfortable with not having them attend if that is their decision. I absolutely HATE showers to begin with and I feel like it is taking away from my mothers moment, she feels like it is turning into a competition. Am I being ridiculous or is it ok to politely say that I appreciate the offer but would prefer one shower?