this is weird.

hmonkey

Dear Amy: My husband of six years has four adult children from a previous marriage. I have two.

 

We rarely see his children, nor do they ever contact us. Previous experiences have not been good with them. (I was not "the other woman.")

 

Two of his children got married, and I gave them a gift of a week at a very expensive time share that I own that is a short drive away.

 

Neither of them has ever written a thank-you note. In fact, one complained that the area was "too expensive."

 

The time share is very nice and does have a completely furnished kitchen if they want to save the cost of going out for dinner.

 

We've heard via Facebook that another of his daughters is getting married.

 

I really hate to waste another week at my time share for this upcoming marriage. This daughter is marrying someone we've never met, but we do know that he is nearly 20 years her senior and a heavy drinker.

 

This time I would like to give a modest wedding gift rather than once again forgo a vacation at my favorite resort and not even be thanked.

 

What are your thoughts? At this point we do not even know if we are invited to the wedding.

DG1

Yes, weird.

I hope Amy said they shouldn't punish the third daughter for the misdeeds of the first two, but that she should give what she feels appropriate based on their relationship with the third daughter alone. Which, of course, is none, so keep your timeshare and go have a good time.

Wzz

the weird thing to me is, why does she feel that she needs to give away her timeshare weeks as gifts for people who might not enjoy that kind of trip?

i won 3 nights at a resort in some obscure city in florida. it isn't much of a prize considering we'll NEVER use it because there are other places we'd rather spend vacation time on.

zsazsa-stl

He is 20 years her senior so it won't be a "real" marriage.  Send them a fruit basket and call it a day.  However I wouldn't even be sending the fruit basket if they didn't invite me to the "wedding."

ReturnOfKuus

Why does she keep giving these people gifts they don't want?

tawillers

She doesn't even officially know of the engagement.

hmonkey

it's kind of like she thinks it's a waste of her time getting to know these people/attending their weddings, so it's like she gifts them things that are a waste of their time.

DG1

Well, the kids still should have sent thank you notes. The same way you do for the macrame toilet paper cozy that aunt edna sends you.

6fsn

The kids should have sent a ty, but she should have at least asked them if they wanted that as a gift.