My FH has a small family that he isn't very close to. I have a very large family that I am very close to. 6yrs ago, my parents were in a better place financially and were able to pay for my sister's wedding. About 85-95% of it. So here we are, in these rough economic times and having the kind of wedding we want is VERY important to us. It is a VERY modest/low budget. We want something that brings everyone together, outdoors, and far from the city. We picked a place where everyone can stay together and have brunch in the morning. The problem? From the beginning, my family has been less than supportive about even the thought of a wedding. Now they are telling me I'm being stubborn and selfish and not thinking about anyone else and how difficult it will be for people to get there and spend the night. And about how much it is going to cost people to go, stay there AND give a gift. We're not having a wedding to get gifts or get money. And the reality is, we weren't expecting much from people. But we were expecting that if they have 8 months notice, they would be able to partake in this celebration. If I wanted to have a party, I'd throw just a party and call it a day. Is it really too much to ask to have people come together and celebrate the beginning of a new family? (I have a son and so does my fiance) I'm starting to feel that while we had good intentions, maybe the effort won't be appreciated and we should just not have the wedding we want. Or a wedding at all.