This starts waaaaay back when i first asked for addresses from Mom's side. Nothing happened for months until I told her all invites were going out in three days and that was that. FI and I cut the list short earlier due to budget and space restrictions, and Mom complied at the time.
Then I get a text from her saying the ringbearer's grandparents and flower girl's grandparents want to be there too. I don't know them, they don't know me, same with FI, plus we were already over what we told the venue--so, obviously, I said no. She calls me crying, trying to guilt me into it, and I stood my ground. Nicely, but inside I was seething.
One of her friends I don't know well kindly gave them $100 to pass on to me because I'm graduating soon(1 week! Yeah!). She apparently told them again "I better get an invite" and when Mom said she would get me the friend's addy, I said no. I didn't want the present if it came with strings, we don't have room, etc. etc.
She puts my dad on the phone, who tries to bully me into doing what Mom wants and says, "What's $1000 if you have 151 people there instead of 150?"
I'm a student. As careful as I am with money, I still struggle to pay bills. Over $2K for the wedding has gone on my card, which I can thankfully pay down quickly with a job I just got.
I lost it and screamed at him.
Once I calm down some, he criticizes the way FI and I handled the invites/guest list! I managed not to hang up on him and cried for what felt like ages after we hung up.
FI agrees when I say it feels like they're unable to handle the fact that I'm actually growing up and making my own decisions. I'm SERIOUSLY wishing FI and I had eloped--the fallout probably wouldn't have been as bad as all this is.
If this wasn't enough, Mom also went out and bought a bunch of stuff she wanted as "favors" without talking to me or FI and acted offended when I told her we picked something out already.
If this keeps up, they're not hearing from me unless they call. I'm REALLY starting to get resentful here.
Am I being a bitch? Or is there a legitimate reason for me to STILL be mad?
Sorry so long...
