S/O Dinner Out

**O-Face**

When someone calls you up and invites you out (say a parent), do you assume you pay dutch or the inviter pays?

ReturnOfKuus

I bring money to pay, but my parents always grab the check.

tawillers

I always assume I'll be paying, but I know my parents will pay if we go out with them.  We're always prepared though.

loveshine1

I always try to pay, but with our parents or grandparents we're never allowed, except on one of their birthday's or something.

Last night when we were out for my bday, my aunt had her friend pretend she was going outside to smoke a cigarette and slip her CC to the waiter so she could pay without argument.

My mom and I have both been known to toss a credit card aside when we're fighting over who pays. The women in my family play dirty.

hmonkey

if it's my parents, they're paying.  we get yelled at ALL THE TIME when we pay or try to pay.  nowadays, my parents insist on having meals at home to avoid a situation wherein their children pay or try to pay.

6fsn

I always assume dutch.  Usually a parent pics up the tab, but sometimes we do.

E Squared

We do the "pull the wallet out slowly" dance with the parents. We're always prepped, but they always pay.

**O-Face**

I just wondered how that worked.  My family always pays, and H's family will invite and then never offer.  We learned and don't go out.  Because honestly FIL is about as good at conversation as he his at dancing.  NOT.

hmonkey

your asian education for the day:

if you are the big brother and going out for a meal with your little sister or brother, you always Always ALWAYS pay. 

i don't know what the rule is if your older sister is paying for you, or if she is at the meal too.  but the older brother always pays for the little sister.  the little brother may eventually pay for his own meal as he grows older, but not the little sister.

6fsn

Now that you mention it Hmo, my brothers have always paid for me.  Dinner, drinks, whatever they pay for my sis and I.

E Squared

My brother usually ends up paying for me, too.

TheDuckis

We always pay. With our parents, H slips his card to the waiter before the check comes. With friends we just tussle over the bill until we win.

hmonkey

6 and wz, i have never met you, so i don't know if you are lying about being asian. 

i have met e, though.  e, here's your yellow card.

E Squared

Schit, I've got yellow undertones. :P

lrivard01

I waited tables in college, when people bickered about the bill in front of me, I would print the check and a bill for nothing (like a glasses of water, so 0$ and they look the same) and make a show of scrambling them up at the table and handing one to each bicker-er. (backfired once, came back to get their card and they put one dollar in one tray, 15 inthe other tray, and made me pick my tip.)

I always bring cash, I'm getting better at winning the "I will pay" battle, since I know we have more liesure income than either of our parents (IL's still have 4 kids at home, one married with 2 kids of her own, so if they all come I usually let IL's take it. Thats the exception)