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walking down the aisle advice

My dad passed away a few months ago, and I just got engaged. I don't have a brother or male relative that can walk me down the aisle, and I want my mom to be ushered in like a normal MOB instead of escorting me.

Does anyone have advice on this? My fiance suggested his dad walking me, but I have been thinking of having a male friend as a "bride's usher" or something, to represent me being given away into his family.

Re: walking down the aisle advice

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    I'm sorry for your loss.  I say do what feels right for you.  It doesn't have to be a male and it doesn't have to even be anyone.
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    I would also suggest walking alone. If you don't feel comfortable replacing your dad with someone, then you don't have to.

    I'm sorry for your loss.

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    btw, people will tell you that no one has to give you away and it's an archaic custom or whatever.  but if that is what you want, have it and screw those people.  DO YOU, GIRL.
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    What about walking halfway down the aisle by yourself and having your FI meet you and you walk together the rest of the way? 
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    Well, agreed. But it may be that walking alone is preferable to the alternatives she has now.  Some people feel like they won't really be married unelss they have someone walk them. Which just isn't true.

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    Sorry for your loss.  Do what YOU want to do. 

    I'm curious, have you talked to your mom about this?  She maybe expecting to walk you down the aisle in your father's absence.
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    If you JUST got engaged, don't worry about it just now. Give it some time, think on it, then decide what you want. You don't have to decide right this minute.
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    Don't get married to begin with.
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. I would suggest walking alone instead of having someone try to fill the spot of your dad just to have someone walk you down the aisle. Try to incorporate your dad into the ceremony some how by having it dedicated to him in the programs (if your providing them) or stitching a piece of his clothing into the inside layer of your wedding dress. All is all, do what is comfortable for you.
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    thanks so much for all the advice. i did JUST get engaged - it's one of those things that is constantly on my mind though!
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