Alternative to garter toss for the guys?

bbfall2010

My fiance and I do not want to embarass ourselves or any of our single ladies/single guys at the reception with a garter toss...  We will do the boquet toss for the girls, but has anyone thought of something else for the guys?

I will see what I can come up with and post back if I can...

Thanks ladies!

trix1223

Skip it.  No one will care, and some will even appreciate that it's gone.

caseyandlizzie

I agree that the guys could care less....I would either do both the bouquet and garter toss or skip them both altogether.

carmen9311

some people do an anniversary dance where the DJ calls all married couples to the dance floor. then, slowly the DJ asks couples who have only been married a short period of time (1 year, 5 years, etc.) to leave the dance floor until you are left with the couple who has been married the longest. then, the bride and groom give the couple the bouquet and garter. could be an option, but i think PP are right that either do both or do neither

aerinpegadrak

It's also not an all or nothing proposition.  I've been to several weddings that have only tossed the bouquet and not the garter.  I've been to many more (including ours) that had neither, but I doubt anyone would care if you just did the one toss, then got back to the party.

vsgal

We didn't toss either and nobody missed it.  Just do the bouquet toss if you want.  You don't have to do something for the guys.

2dBride

With a same-sex wedding, we had two bouquets and two garters.  None of them got tossed.  No one missed the tosses.

JoyMatt424

No tosses at my wedding. I hate them! I hate being in the receiving end of it. They look cute on camera, but I feel like an awkward school girl in them.

Pirata13

We did both the garter and bouquet toss but combined it all into one. I'm a big baseball fan. So we "rehearsed" a couple of times with the song "Take Me Out to the Ballgame" so we had timing right. The DJ had the whole hall sing along with us--H & I had chairs "center stage" while the girls were off to one side of the dance floor, guys off to the other side. The garter was right at my knee, we'd agreed no head under the dress stuff, it was very simple and "clean" and on the "For it's 1! 2! 3! strikes you're out!" line, we tossed the bouquet and garter. It essentially kept the focus on us aside from the last couple seconds and not put the single folks on display. 

So that's just an idea, if you have a sports song or other song it would be fun to do something like that to. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

How is the bouquet toss less humiliating than the garter toss?

bdunbar87

I was wanting to know the same thing! i want to do the bouquet toss but not the garder.

jcandjd

I always hated being one of the few single women, so I am tossing a "bouquet" of lotto tickets, for all the women.  Then, my fiance is tossing one to all the guys.  That way, I get to keep my bouquet yet get to toss one (which I've always wanted to do), and both single and married people will participate.  We are trying to decide whether to do it simultaneously or at different times.  No humiliation for single people, and maybe a guest will win!

If your guy is concerned about a bouquet, maybe safety pin them to something he feels more okay with, like a baseball hat or something, or just don't call it a bouquet for him.

You could also make a bouquet of something else- $5 gift cards, dollar bills, etc.

mlegg08

We just got married a couple of weeks ago and also skipped the garter toss. I threw my bouquet in front of the church after the ceremony which everyone loved. It seemed really natural instead of staged since everyone was already gathered there. It also helped build up a grand exit to the limo to go to the reception, which was nice since we didn't really have that at the end of the night.

As far as the guys go, I don't think they really care that much, although as a joke my husband tossed the bouquet for his groomsmen while we were doing photos with the wedding party. It came out pretty well and we have some pretty funny pictures as a result. Hope this helps!

berigo

Love the idea of bringing everyone together (guys and girls) so people aren't singled out and the anniversary dance idea.  Thanks everyone!

7/16/2011!