What NOT to do.....

butterflyjumper1

So, as I mentioned, one of my good friends got married on Saturday.  Everything was beautiful, but there was one flaw that affected my fiance and I and I wanted to share it...it was a HUGE reminder to me to double and triple and quadruple check our seating chart/escort cards/place cards/etc.!

We went through the line to pick up escort cards with a few of my friends, and realized we were at a diferent table than them. Oh well, I figured I would probably know someone at my table.  Well, turns out, the bride had accidentally put my fiance and I at a table that was otherwise a whole family related to the groom. The family looked at us when we sat downand said "Are you sure you are supposed to sit here? This table was supposed to be for our whole family."

Um ok? Sorry we were placed here...I showed her my placecard to verify we were sitting at the right table.  

Then it ended up that the family was right - our table was overbooked and we were the only people sitting there who were NOT members of the family! The rest of the family showed up and we ended up being kicked out of the table...

One of the tables where my friends were sitting ended up having two empty seats so when we got kicked out of our assigned table, we moved to sit with them.

Granted, I am sure it was all a mistake, and I am not the type of person who will get all bent out of shape when something weird like this happens, but the whole experience was REALLY awkward and not something that I would want to happen to any of my guests!

So girls, moral of the story is, make sure you go through your place card numbers and seating charts at least 4 or 5 times to make sure none of your guests have to go through this

LADY324

Oh man I am sorry that must have been so uncomfortable too!!

ceglare4

I would've been mortified if I were you! I don't do well in really awkward situations like that!

xobride

Oh wow, I'm so glad I'm not having to deal with that stress.  We're not doing assigned seating since the wedding is so small.

bridetobe71412

That sounds terrible. I'd be so embarrassed!

Now I'm getting nervous about ours!

cmhutchison22

We aren't doing seating charts.  Sounds like you handled everything well.  Sorry it happened. =(

BrightFirefly

I kind of think how the people at the table reacted was a little rude - but I guess it all depends on what their tone was.

Totally awkward.

Madisonpenny

this is why I'm doing something like this.....

Skyjewell23

OMG yes. I will for sure check. That would be so akward!

Nati05

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[QUOTE]I kind of think how the people at the table reacted was a little rude - but I guess it all depends on what their tone was. :p Totally awkward.
Posted by BrightFirefly[/QUOTE]

I was thinking the exact same thing when I read it the first time. But then, I don't know what their tone was, they could have just been concerned about the 2 members of the family that were singled out. Anyway, very embarassing! Glad it worked out in the end though. I'm guessing the 2 empty seats at your friend's table were supposed to be yours, but there was a mix up on the escort cards. Thanks for the story.. I'll be checking as much as possible!! Lol

butterflyjumper1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What NOT to do..... : I was thinking the exact same thing when I read it the first time. But then, I don't know what their tone was, they could have just been concerned about the 2 members of the family that were singled out. Anyway, very embarassing! Glad it worked out in the end though.<strong> I'm guessing the 2 empty seats at your friend's table were supposed to be yours, but there was a mix up on the escort cards.</strong> Thanks for the story.. I'll be checking as much as possible!! Lol
Posted by Nati05[/QUOTE]

<div>yes this is what we ended up assuming too - definitely it was awkward!! </div><div>
</div><div>The family whose table we crashed wasn't necessarily rude, but they for sure made it more awkward than it needed to be....but they had two family members who couldn't sit down at their assigned table because we were there, haha! </div>

owengirl996

That stinks, and is a great reminder, thanks! I'm glad things worked out for you guys though!

Nati05

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What NOT to do..... :The family whose table we crashed wasn't necessarily rude, but they for sure made it more awkward than it needed to be....but they had two family members who couldn't sit down at their assigned table because we were there, haha! 
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

Ughh just uncomfortable all around! *shudder*

ajmom2two

Ugh!  That sound awful!  We havent decided if we are doing assigned seating or not (we have been leaning towards having a seating chart) but this makes me kind of want to just let everyone find their own spots to sit!

michelle11988

Ugh that totally sucks! I would not do well in such an awkward situation.  I will probably now check my seating even more after this incident.

cwaggoner07

We are having a pretty large reception, but we're not doing a seating chart. We are also doing buffet, so maybe that will make things easier. I've only ever been to one wedding with a seating chart... maybe they're just not as popular in TX???

BrightFirefly

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[QUOTE]We are having a pretty large reception, but we're not doing a seating chart. We are also doing buffet, so maybe that will make things easier. I've only ever been to one wedding with a seating chart... maybe they're just not as popular in TX???
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

I've only been to one wedding with a seating chart as well - and many without a seating chart.

Only one of the weddings without a seating chart ended up being an issue for me...and that's because it was a friend's wedding - not family - so I didn't know everyone - and didn't want to "just sit anywhere".

I'm divided as to what to do -_- our reception will at the MAXIMUM have 75 people - but I'm predicting more like 60 to actually show and we would have room for extra tables.

Melissa.hylton

Kinda Sorta had this issue myself. My FI brother got married in February. They gave out hot sauce bottles with everyones names and table numbers on them. We get ours and we go find our table. They placed us on the complete other side of the room as every single one of our family members. The bride and I are close so I have yet to ask wtf? In the end it didnt really matter because we spent less time at the table and most of the time dancing and mingling.