Please, heed this advice.

snugbug42

Biggest mistake brides make.  Do not play Every Breath You Take by Sting (and the Police).  It is an intensely creepy song about an obsessive stalker, which Sting wrote after separating from his first wife.  Every year couples use it as their first dance song, much to Sting's chagrin.  don't do it. it's creepy, and obsessive, and has about as much charm and romance as a Twilight novel.

Lasairiona

Great advice.

sandradpage

i went to a wedding....they played 'white weddding' by Billy Idol....its about a shotgun wedding! WAS SHOCKED!!  

banana468

"Hey little sister SHOTGUN!"  Do people not pay attention??Yeah - I have to agree with PPs here.   Pay attention!! 

Sooles

eff it. white wedding will play at my werdding, because i love it.its not like it will play while im walking down the aisle or something.

MrsNFB

Actually most people do not pay attention. If you like a song, use it. Heed this: NO ONE will remember your wedding songs but you. It's not worth stressing out about lyrics that either no one will pay attention to or really care about. I used "Banana Pancakes" for my cake cutting song...oh the HORROR...it's about making a breakfast food - what will my guests think of me?! Who the eff cares? I like the song and no else will remember it. Relax girls, there are much bigger things to worry about.

banana468

I think the bigger thing is, "Note the words before you choose."It's one thing if you say, "I don't care if it's about a shotgun wedding."It's a completely different thing to say, "What???  It's about a SHOTGUN WEDDING??!?"Sure ignorance is bliss - until your ignorance is brought to your attention.  Can you imagine just swaying to the music on your wedding day to finally realize that "Bittersweet memories, that is all I'm taking with me, so goodbye please don't cry," doesn't exactly say, "Hooray!  We're married and 'til death us do part!"

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FI and I just had this convo yesterday! And discussed many of these songs.

2dBride

Yeah, we're using Leonard Cohen's "Dance Me to the End of Love" as our first dance song, in spite of this comment from the author:[quote]'Dance Me To The End Of Love' ... it's curious how songs begin because the origin of the song, every song, has a kind of grain or seed that somebody hands you or the world hands you and that's why the process is so mysterious about writing a song. But that came from just hearing or reading or knowing that in the death camps, beside the crematoria, in certain of the death camps, a string quartet was pressed into performance while this horror was going on, those were the people whose fate was this horror also. And they would be playing classical music while their fellow prisoners were being killed and burnt. So, that music, "Dance me to your beauty with a burning violin," meaning the beauty there of being the consummation of life, the end of this existence and of the passionate element in that consummation. But, it is the same language that we use for surrender to the beloved, so that the song -- it's not important that anybody knows the genesis of it, because if the language comes from that passionate resource, it will be able to embrace all passionate activity. [/quote]However, the lyrics on their face are not morbid, and we decided we liked it enough so the genesis of it didn't matter to us.

catchtanya

I think its more important what the song means to YOU not what the lyrics were intended as. I mean you can read the same lyrics 2 or 3 different ways in some case. Its all how each person interprets it. FI and I will be using "feels like home" for our first dance. Not exactly a love ballad as shes talking about windows breaking and sirens, but its the song that came on the radio the night i moved in with him and he asked me to dance in the living room. It has personal meaning.

MrsNFB

Well, if someone complains about song lyrics at a loved ones wedding, they are seriously demented (who does that?!). Taking the time to "warn" people they've never met on a public message board about their personal song choices is taking nit-picking to a whole other level. It's a simply a song choice, no one is saving/killing babies here. And seriously, no one will care or remember.

MissLeahM

I'm not trying to nit pick, but I agree a bit. If the song means something to the couple thats totally different. My sister's wedding she loved the song Fallin' by Alicia Keys and that was their first song, yes she has a beautiful voice but 'i keep falling in and out of love with you' wouldn't be my first choice. I have never said anything to her, or them, its just something that roles around in the back of my mind, especially when choosing my song.. Which is again Alicia Keys, but NOT 'fallin'

amykay19

HEY I LIKE TWILIGHT LOL.

Da0419

I think you guys need to lighten up.

alohababy28

(A) It's rude to criticize someone's choice for a first dance song. They picked it for a reason- likely because it was somehow special to them. It's nobody's business but their own what they pick. If a wedding guest were SO RUDE as to tell you "hey did you know your first dance song was about THIS??? Why'd you pick THAT??", then they have NO business being at your wedding, and they are possibly the rudest people on the planet. (B) MOST people will not remember what your first dance song was unless it stuck out to them, and if that is because they thought it was a poor choice of lyrics, then those people have their own hang ups they need to deal with. I only remember one first dance song and that's because it happened to be one of my favorite songs. (C) The majority of people don't look into the meaning of lyrics, and a lot of people don't even listen TO the lyrics. So I doubt they'd put as much thought into it as some of you are implying. I appreciate trying to give people advice, but I don't think it's your place (or anyone's) to tell them their choice (potential or otherwise) is wrong. And MOST inmportantly DON'T dis Twilight! LOL

banana468

Of course no one should criticize.However it's just smart to make sure that you know the lyrics to a song that you're dedicating to your everlasting love that's all.If you love it in spite of the fact that it may have to do with wife beating, a stalker, kicking drugs, a shotgun wedding, or getting drunk and having sex (Hello Jimmy Buffet!) then go for it.  Just do a small amount of research that's all.

AllieK2010

What is so wrong with bringing light to this? I cannot STAND when I see a happy couple dance to a creepy song. It doesn't fit at all. It's just friendly advice.At the end of the day, if a couple chooses one of those songs, it's their choice, but it still bugs me.

BoxerMomma24

A former co-worker wanted to dance to "Follow Me" by Uncle Cracker b/c she loved the song... that was until I told her it was about him screwing a married girl - I'm not worried about the ring you wear, as long as no one knows then nobody will care.   Yeah, I'm glad her FI checked out the lyrics!