sweetheart table but what for bridal party??

Noelle1219

I really wanted to do a sweetheart table but I am unsure how to seat our bridal party. We have 7 guys and 7 girls. I was thinking a round table of each in front of us but my fam thinks the group should be at a long head table so they are more on display. Either they could be at a long rect. table on a riser behind the sweetheart table or in front of us with the sweetheart table on a riser. IDK what to do! Opinions? What is anyone else doing with a sweetheart table?

MrsNFB

We sat the bridal party with people they knew with the rest of the guests. Our bridal party didn't all know each other so it would have been weird to sit them all together. And I'm 100% sure they wouldn't have wanted to be on display.

trix1223

At both of my kids' weddings, the WP sat and tables with their friends/families.  There isn't any good reason why they have to be seated together during the reception.At DD's wedding, MOH and BM (my other DD with her bf and DIL and son) sat together with their cousins, her new SIL and her date sat with her siblings and their dates,  and her 3 college friends and their dates all sat together at another table.Just seat your WP and their dates as you'd seat any other guest.

ffmaid

Sit them with teh groups they would be seated with if not in the WP so sister with parents best college pal with colleg pals soccer pal with soccer pals ect  

danieliza1127

They don't need to be on display.  The best and most considerate thing you can do is let them sit with their dates/spouses at regular tables near the front.

meredithl618

This is exactly what we have. We are going to do a sweetheart table too. We are going to put the bridal party AND their dates at the first couple tables in the front of the room nearest to us. I think they will be happy because they will be with their dates but also up near us at the front.

mbcdefg

I've never heard anyone as a guest say that they were interested in seeing the bridal party on display. Or any BP member who said they enjoyed being on display. I don't see why anyone really cares who's in the bridal party if they don't already know them prior to the wedding.Seat them around the room with their dates with groups they already know. Whatever you do, don't split them up from their dates.

hvnlydevil

No one from the bridal party on the bride's side were involved with anyone from the groom's side-so we did our sweetheart table with the bride's girls and their SO's on one side of us and the groom's men and their SO's on the other side.

Noelle1219

Haha-I like that last post. I am open to doing any of these combinations...my mom is more traditional and likes the head table because she feels that when you ask someone to be in your wedding it is nice to honor them by seating them there and then everyone can see who is in the bridal party a little more clearly... I am kinda indifferent as of right now but I appreciate everyone's thoughts. If anyone else has an opinion, keep them coming.

trix1223

People know who the WP is because they're the ones that were standing up front during the ceremony.They don't need to be put on display at the reception for people to remember that they were the WP.If they wore matching dresses/tuxes/suits that's usually a clue also.

I:Heart:Him

I agree with trix1223. Your BP will be obvious if they are wearing the same thing. I personally have never attended a wedding where male guests wore formal suits or tuxedos so the groomsmen are likely to stand out too. The most recent wedding my FI and I attended, FI was part of the BP so I had to sit alone all night and watch my FI "on display" while sitting with people I did not know at the "single table" which really annoyed me. Since that seems to always be the case for me, I too have decided to do a sweetheart table and seat my BP with their guest at regular tables.I didn't want to do a sweetheart table, since it draws more attention than a regular head table... I wanted us to sit with our parents at a regular table but my dad just remarried and I cannot fathom seating my single mother next to my dad and his new wife, so its out of the question for me, sadly.  Good luck with whatever you decide!!

trix1223

Ihim:  You can do what my DD did with her sweetheart table.  She also hates being the center of attention, so they placed their table in the front corner of the room instead of at the front center.Our table was on their right, and SIL's parent table was on their left.  My sister-in-law complained because where she was seated they couldn't really see the bride and groom, which was just what my DD was hoping. =)Look into how you can still have your sweetheart table without it being placed in the center of attention.