Seating Wedding Party's Signifigant others

Chelsenator

We are going to have a head table with my 3 bridesmaids and my fiance's 3 groomsmen, but where do we put their signifigant others? Only 2 of them have a bf/gf (as of right now) and I'm not sure where to seat them.

trix1223

Please reconsider your head table and let your WP sit with their friends, s/o, family.  There isn't really any need nor good point to having a "head" table.FWIW, I've only seen one head table in years and years and that was at my nephew's holy mess of a wedding.

trix1223

also-see the post below "Sweetheart table but what..."

I:Heart:Him

We are doing a sweetheart table and letting our BP sit with their SO's. Are you against this idea? I have noticed that several other knotties are doing sweetheart tables as well so it's actually more common than a head table nowadays. If you are insistent on having a head table, it is pretty typical to have a "single people table" where the guests of your BP sit as well as other guests without dates.But, I must say, not many people are happy with the idea of sitting at the "single table" without their date for the wedding.But then again, the BP does not stay sitting for long...I am sure you have guests who are coming without a date so you could more than likely do the "single table" if you really need to have your BP at a head table with you.I just attended a wedding where my FI was part of the BP and I got stuck at the "single table" with people I hardly knew and it wasn't til the later part of the night when my FI got to leave the head table and mingle. I was uncomfortable and lonely.There are several other posts related to yours where you can find the answers you are looking for.Good luck to you on your seating arrangements and your wedding day! 

Emstarme

Please sit them with their dates. My FI was in his brother's wedding and I did not know his family or brother's friends especially well and they sat me with his cousins. I was so nervous and upset it ruined most of the night. I understand why you want a head table but please think about your wedding party and their dates as well.

mbcdefg

You could do a double-sided banquet table and let the dates sit with all of you. It won't matter if non-WP people are at the table ... your guests aren't going to be watching the WP all night. Heck, I'll bet they might not even notice the dates up there with you.

Da0419

We're having a head table, and we're probably going to have the SOs sit at our various "friends" tables.  Most of my friends have similar personalities, so I figure that the SOs won't mind sitting with others as long as they're a fun group.  The head table is a pretty standard tradition in my area too, so I'm trying to make sure everyone has a good time.  Sit them where you think they'll fit in.  Like someone else said, it's not like they're going to be glued to their seat the whole night and banned from mingling with their SO who is in the bridal party.  Good luck, and don't stress about it too much!!

Emstarme

If you do the head table with no SO; make sure that everyone knows what the seating situation will be in advance. I was taken totally off guard and so I was my FI. We found out about 10 minutes before the reception that we weren't sitting together. I think I would've felt better if I was more prepared.

C W

Head tables are the ONLY way I've seen seating arrangements done in my area until our wedding. At first some people thought it was anti-social for us to sit at our own sweetheart table, but the WP and their dates/wives etc really appreciated being able to sit with each other. You won't be at the head table for long anyway, so you might as well have your own table. And, think about how you would feel if you were the SO at a wedding and wasn't able to sit with your FI. I've done it many times and it sucks. If you MUST have a head table, ask your WP who their dates would like to sit with. Do they know anyone else in the wedding? I would either sit them with someone they know, or with outgoing people so they have someone to talk to.

ffmaid

Their SO's should be seated right next to them which means if you do the head table the So's are also at the head table.  

Jaclyn619

eh not this debate again! I'm doing a head table. You should do whatever your first thought was...If your worried about your WP, talk to them and see how they feel about this. If some of them are totally offended by not being able to sit with their SOs, then do a sweetheart table and avoid the drama.

liz&fred

We're doing a headtable, but only one BM and GM will be without their SOs. My MOH isn't bringing a date, and the other six in the BP are children: my fiance's 3 children and 2 nephews. We're just seating my 1 BM's husband and 1 GM's girlfriend with FI's parents since they already know eachother.

KappaK

We have a very small WP, and we are friends with the SO of our WP members so we are doing a table with us, the WP, and their SO.On a side note, just because something is common place and the norm in your area does not mean you have to do it.  The wedding police aren't going to come and say your marriage isn't valid.  Do whatever it is your are comfortable doing.  Remember it is a party and a celebration!

Violetzoe

I plan on having a head table and my WP knows that I am having a head table. I think that if they agreed on being in your wedding, they have a pretty good idea where they will be seated. Their SO are sitting at various tables with people that they already know. I am not against a sweetheart table, its just not something that I want to do. I think at the end of the day it is your wedding and you need to do whatever seating plan you like. I look at it this way, everyone only sits for about a half hour... Best of Luck!!

flutgrl1

um to the singles table poster. please please please dont do that to people you are supposed to love and cherish.

MsFlicka

"I am not against a sweetheart table, its just not something that I want to do.I think at the end of the day it is your wedding and you need to do whatever seating plan you like." The reception isn't about you. It is about what is most comfortable for your guests, whatever that might be. "Because I like it" is never a reason for a bride to make guests uncomfortable. "I look at it this way, everyone only sits for about a half hour." Are you serving fast food at your wedding? A formal dinner is well over an hour, and that doesn't include the time you are sitting before dinner, during toasts, during dessert, etc. A genuine, formal dinner can last a couple of hours. And your seat is your "home base" for most of the night even after people are up and dancing. Trust me. I've been a groomsman's date several times. It was always uncomfortable sitting apart. I never saw my date until well into the night when he would come "check up" on me. I will never go to another wedding where my SO is in a wedding party and seated seperately. It sucks. Nothing for a guest should ever suck so the bride can do "what she wants" I do not understand why this concept is so hard.

Catwoman708

It's only 2 extra people. Try to squeeze them in at the head table. Add a table in there if you have to.

chosen175

I never thought this was an issue.... until I was MoH in a wedding and FI (then bf) was stuck at a table full of people he didn't know at all.  Actually, the only ones he knew at that wedding were me and the bride.  I felt AWFUL and as soon as dinner was served, I inhaled it and went to sit with my bf, who hadn't stopped staring at the napkin in his lap for over an hour.  I felt horrible.  I won't do that to anyone.  Although head tables are the norm in my circle, we've decided to do a sweetheart table.

as985

We are doing a sweethart table. Our bridesmaids and groomsmen can sit with their date/ signigicant other/ wife/ husband. I wish I had been to more weddings that took this approach. (I do not mean any offense to anyone), but it was hard to go to a wedding as a guest of my BF/ now FI and then being seated with a bunch of people I have never met, and know nothing about, and he is at the head table (and vice versa).