Kissing songs instead of clinking glasses

jennfer626

I came across this idea and really love it. Instead of having guests clink their glasses for us to kiss, they have to sing a song with the word "love" in it. I'm putting this information on our centerpieces so people know. The wording goes like this:Kisses from the Bride and GromIf you would like a public display of affection from this bride and groom, it will take more than just a clinking of a glass! For some display of "love" to take place, your table will be required to sing a song with the word "love" in it.The better the song, the better the kiss!FI is not crazy about this idea, but I love it. We're doing a more casual, cocktail reception. What do you guys think?

trix1223

I'm with your FI on this.  I dislike any kissing games at receptions.  I think having tipsy people bellow songs off-key is never a good idea.  (Think the audition episodes of American Idol.)If you want to kiss you new DH, kiss him.  If you don't, don't.  If you hate clinking glasses, just along twice and then ignore it afterward.  At DD's wedding, people "clinked" exactly twice and it didn't happen again.But don't make people perform.  That's sure to bring everyone else's conversation, mingling, chatting to a screeching halt.

laurening

Depends on your crowd. If a lot of your guests are the boisterous and outgoing type it could be great. But personally, Personally, I'm not a fan of the idea and wouldn't participate. I don't go to a wedding to do karaoke . You have to know your guests.

jennfer626

Thanks for the feedback!I don't consider it a requirement to sing. Just like it's not a requirement to clink glasses. We're not having a dance floor in our reception area, although there will be a band playing, so I feel like it will add to the atmosphere a little.

Soon2bBivens

My cousin did this at her wedding years ago and it was a lot of fun. Some of us were a little shy about it but some of those tables got really into it. It almost became a competition between some of the family tables as to who could come up with more songs. I think the bride and groom thought they'd get outta a lot of kissing that way and that was certainly not the case. Like other said, know your crowd. I'd love to do that but I dont think that many of our guests would like to participate.

jennfer626

Thanks! I know that most people won't randomly burst into song, but we have some bolder friends who would get a kick out of it. I should clarify: FI likes the idea of it, but doesn't think people will do it. We're only having about 50 guests - our closest family and friends, so it's definitely less daunting than having people sing in a room filled with 200 other guests.

ffmaid

I've seen it three timesEach time it was obnoxious and meant drunk idiots singing the barney song and the love boat interupting the fun of the evening

mbcdefg

If I were a guest at a wedding that did this, my concern would be that some obnoxious aunt at my table would hoist me to my feet and insist that I sing along with her. Yuck.

mikenamanda

At my boss' wedding if you wanted the bride and groom to kiss you had to stand up and tell a story about either of them.  There were some really funny ones but some really heartfelt ones too! I thought it was cute!

jennfer626

That's a really cute idea, too!

kristen0393

I think it's an adorable idea! I was trying to come up with something and thats what a friend of mine did. She said it was a blast. It's not so that people won't clink but so that not all of the focus will be on us. My FI didn't like the idea much at first either but I reminded him that then we can get away with a quick kiss and most of the attention will be focused on whomever is is making a fool of themselves. Our families are both pretty rowdy and I think it'll work perfectly for us. It all depends on the group of people you have coming.

jennfer626

Cool, thanks! I was getting nervous that most people thought it was a bad idea. I definitely agree that it depends on what kind of reception you're having and what your guests are like.

CCBelle

We used a similar poem at my wedding last spring (placed pretty little table tents on each table).  We had a small wedding (68 guests) and an older, decidedly not "wild" crowd.  I did not think many - if any - guests would sing, and I was really surprised.  I think every table sang, even the one with the grandparents, and some sang twice.  The guests had a lot of fun, and it was not at all embarassing or obnoxious.  It gave the guests something to talk about, and they tried to one up the other tables.  All in all, I'm glad we did it, and the guests all really enjoyed it!Here is the poem we used:"If we hear your glass cling, we won't do a thingBut we'll be happy to kiss if you grant us one wish...Gather your friends or family and standSing us a song with the word "love" in itand we'll kiss as you planned!"HTH!

duckie1905

People will still clink even if you offer the song thing. I've have seen this done at a lot of weddings and find it unoriginal and obnoxious.  If I wanted to hear tone deaf drunk people sing, I'd go to karaoke and not a wedding.