Too Expensive?

Tequint

So, my fiance and I decided we wanted to get married on a lake about an hour and half away from where we live. We went this weekend to see the ceremony and reception site, within walking distance of each other. The place was gorgeous,and we got an awesome deal on pricing. We were really excited about it.Now I'm having second thoughts. Since it's far away from our hometown, and guests will be required to stay in hotels instead of staying with family members, do you think that will detour anyone from coming? I really love the site, but if it will keep my family and friends from joining us, I would love it a lot less. Has anyone else thought about that?

danieliza1127

An hour and a half drive won't keep your family and friends from being there for you on your wedding day.  Are there hotels close by for those that will want to stay the night instead of driving back home?  Is the reception during the day or evening?  Have you asked any family members or friends what they think?

mbcdefg

I think you need to talk to your closest loved ones (the people you absolutely can't get married without) and see what they think. Encourage them to be honest with you. It may also depend on what's common in your inner circle. Every time I've had to stay overnight for a wedding, I've stayed in a hotel and didn't think twice about it. Most people I know don't stay with relatives when they go to a wedding. But that's my circle, not yours. I asked some loved ones how far they'd mind traveling for our wedding and we booked our site according to the results. I don't mind if Third Cousin Clem that I never see can't make it, but if my favorite aunt or my best friend won't be able to come then I would change my plans.

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This is something we're considering as well as we look for sites. One option might be to get transportation for guests from your hometown. If you're getting a good deal on the venue, this might make sense financially as well compared to a more expensive site closer to home. Of course, also depends on how many people you need to transport.

ffmaid

It depends on the family and their fiscal situations. 90 min away is a doable drive and they could still drive home afterwards. Why not discuss it with the family and friends you are concerned about to see what they say

subdola

We got married on the opposite side of the country from most of our friends and family.  The most important people came, the lesser ones didn't...and it was perfect because of that.  An hour and a half is not that far, if someone who loves you won't go that distance then...well...not really sure what to tell you.

alithebride

if the drive back is only 90 minutes it's not THAT long. I mean it's not long enough for someone to drive home after the reception if they can't afford the hotel but really want to go-in my opinion anyway.