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dannyandlauren2010

Hi...i'm hoping someone can help me with my minor drama. My fi and i started shopping for a venue for our august 2010 wedding reception last month. we found a beautiful site/caterer that we both loved. I really think this is THE ONE. Since that time, i've been in contact with the caterer - emailing a couple times a week and have returned to see it with our parents. Now that we know we are serious about booking, I emailed him asking for a proposal almost a week ago, and still haven't heard back from him, which is weird as he us usually prompt about replying. i'm trying to get a good price and don't want to seem overly eager. But I would also like to get the ball rolling and get a proposal so that we can compare to other venues and decide - and ultimately move on with our plans. Should I email him again? Is there anything i can say to not seem rude, or pushy or over eager? Please help me. I'm new to this wedding planning stuff. Thx!

aerinpegadrak

I usually try to give it two weeks between reminder e-mails.  If he has a phone number, you might try calling rather than e-mailing; maybe your e-mail got eaten by a spam filter or something.  Keep the tone casual: "Hey, wasn't sure if you got my last e-mail, but we'd love to get a solid proposal so we can move forward." 

danieliza1127

I would pick up the phone and call.  When I was looking, I realized a lot of venues have an e-mail but don't really use it or check it regularly.  I got a lot farther just calling and talking with someone in person.  There is a chance that he hasn't seen your e-mail.  Besides, there's no harm seeming eager.  You do need to get the place booked, especially being less than a year out.  He's a vendor, not your friend, don't worry about being over eager or hurting feelings.  Just get it done.

brownhenry

I get irritated and I eventually just call because they haven't responded to emails. I figure you have every right to be pushy its your money you are going to be putting into this site and you basically own them once you pay them. Thats the way I look at it. (No I'm not a bridezilla I just think Ishould get what I pay for lol)

Catwoman708

For non urgent issues, I'd wait a few days in between calls or e-mails. And I'd make sure to try and make contact during their non-peak days/hours. But I don't think twice a week from a potential customer is "stalking". If you've made several attmepts and they go more than a few weeks without returning messages, then maybe you don't want to do business with them. When/if you do make contact, simply ASK them when a good time to contact them is.

Leah&Christian09

Cliff notes: Found a venue, began speaking with in-house caterer. Emailed a week ago asking for a proposal, hasn't heard back. If you haven't gotten a reply to an email after a week, it's fine to follow up with a phone call. It's likely that it has been a busy week or that this person is on vaca this week, and you wouldn't know without calling.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I would call and ask if he got your email. If not, just say you'd like a solid proposal. I, too, haven't had great luck with being contacted by venues and vendors through email.

dmerlin

I would call now. I've tried to contact several vendors, got no response and discovered that the contact was laid off or fired. In this economy, you never know.

AmyLaurel89

Call or Show up. Its hard to ignore someone who is waiting on you. Don't let him dodge you. Don't worry about seeming too eager. They should understand that if they want your business they need to respond. be nice but if they don't reply with a proposal, go some place else and let them know you are. Normal 0 false false false EN-US X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-qformat:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;} [url=http://www.theknot.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers][img]http://global.theknot.com/tools/tickers/tt40ffa.aspx[/img][/url]